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Probably the main reason why I have never been in a relationship is due to the fact that I'm always broke. How do other people who have little or no money go out and date and even get married?
Oh for crying out loud, when I started dating my husband he was in debt that amounted to about 6 figures as the result of a divorce and I dated him anyway and married him.
We did a lot of free things and since I didn't make a lot of money either we pooled our resources for something special every couple of months and spent a lot of time at home which was fine for both of us.
I was dating him not his money and he is still the most important part of our relationship, not his money.
Probably the main reason why I have never been in a relationship is due to the fact that I'm always broke. How do other people who have little or no money go out and date and even get married?
By having a good heart and spirit and seeking the same in others, and not trying to form relationships with people who put money on a pedestal. My ex-husband was not a wealthy man, but he was extremely intelligent and witty, didn't have a mean bone in his body, and was easy on the eyes. If I met a man like him today, who learned the lessons about partnership that he did after our divorce (he'll tell you he had no business getting married when he did, he was still larval), and was done raising his kids, I'd snatch him up in a heartbeat.
Well I do not know how old the OP is but if he 30 years old like me working a dead end job with no room for advancement your going to have a hard time finding a long term GF. Ones best bet is to find a woman that has no money so you two can have no money together. One option is to do something about it like I am .
I think it one thing going to college even at 30 and being broke then being 30 years old happy at a dead end job and happy with just enough money for beer on days off then it is a problem.
Once i transfer to a university I am going to be short on some ends and eating peanut sandwiches and not going out much I would like to think a female would see well this guy going places in like . Hell have you seen the cost of college ? Seattle U is 12k a quarter just for tuition then go add in books or rent , food, other stuff.
You find someone who is either in the same situation or who doesn't consider it a dealbreaker.
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It helps to find someone who isn't so shallow.
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This pretty well covers it. + free dates, hanging out at home, and if marriage is in the cards, a civil ceremony w/a Justice of the Peace. I know people who've done it this way, when they were in grad school.
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same way other people get into relationships. They meet someone who does not have a concern with this, Or they have a similar life situation. With the exception of the very wealthy, Finances can be fleeting for many people at certain times. They may be supporting kids/family, A medical issue/car repairs or other life event comes up etc. People get laid off and seek new employment and their situation changes for an amount of time until it improves.
Main point here: Someone for everyone. We are all not fashion models with 3% body fat, perfect teeth and hair and piles of money in the vault. We have flaws, Some that others even find endearing actually sometimes. We have ups and downs, And we are also often our own harshest critics. When you couple that with what society projects as being "ideal" and what others may say about us one can imagine how much anxiety some of us carry around. It's always great to strive to do one's best but sometimes we have to work with what life throws at us. No one controls the mechanics of the universe 100%.Live strong and be humble is best.
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Easy...you show respect, curtesy, kindness, and consideration...it doesn't cost anything.
If you believe that the reason you've not "been in a relationship" is because you have no money, you are your own worst enemy as far a having a relationship goes.
What they said.
My beau doesn't make much money (<20k), and it isn't an issue to me. He enjoys his work, and it isn't work that pulls in a lot of money. I'm still in school, and whatever field I end up pursuing long term also won't pull in a lot of money (60+k), and that's okay with me. We both share the same thoughts on standard of living and all that jazz. He's always lived simply, and I'm starting over in many ways following a divorce. We're both in similar situations and we're understanding and accepting of that.
People with little to no money reproduce more than people with money.
You appear to be thinking of the underclass; men who are consistently employed and at low wages probably reproduce very little, if for no other reason than because women generally do not consider them desirable.
Well I do not know how old the OP is but if he 30 years old like me working a dead end job with no room for advancement your going to have a hard time finding a long term GF. Ones best bet is to find a woman that has no money so you two can have no money together. One option is to do something about it like I am .
I think it one thing going to college even at 30 and being broke then being 30 years old happy at a dead end job and happy with just enough money for beer on days off then it is a problem.
Once i transfer to a university I am going to be short on some ends and eating peanut sandwiches and not going out much I would like to think a female would see well this guy going places in like . Hell have you seen the cost of college ? Seattle U is 12k a quarter just for tuition then go add in books or rent , food, other stuff.
Seattle U is free if you can demonstrate financial need. Everyone I know who went there didn't pay a dime for tuition or housing. Spare us the sob story.
Women don't care if you're broke when you're in college. That should be obvious, judging by all the dating that goes on in college.
Seattle U is free if you can demonstrate financial need. Everyone I know who went there didn't pay a dime for tuition or housing. Spare us the sob story.
Women don't care if you're broke when you're in college. That should be obvious, judging by all the dating that goes on in college.
Get a grip.
That is why I am going to quit my job and go find one making min wage so I can get all the help money wise I can get. Seeing that i only make 19 bucks and hour the government told me I make to much for any help now. :roll eyes:
I am going to quit one year in advance of applying for financial help.I just got to tell them, i do not want any more money then $9.50 an hour do not want to make too much.
As far as living expenses I live in my car if i have too if that is what I got to do.
Truth be told like paying my own way it keeps me driven like i have to beat the person next to me on every test , midterm , project . Also It allows me be an underdog one that was giving nothing the one you love to hate.
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To the OP just improve your self go back to college get a better job do what ever to make you situation better .
The 2nd thing you can do is just date woman that are broke as well.
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