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I have a type but then society now says it's wrong to have that.
I can't help it though, since it's what gets me going physically and on an emotional level. Why then is it unfair to turn people down?
I think "society" is backwards. If anything, it is unfair to actually carry on and deceive someone into believing that you are attracted to that person when in reality, you are not.
Also, don't put so much stock on what society says. Society will tell you a whole bunch of contradictory things. You determine what you want. You don't owe anybody anything. So why put yourself through the torture of an experience you don't want in order to please society?
You have a right to turn down someone if it is not working for you.
Everyone is entitled to their own standards. The only time I find standards offputting is when someone has lofty hotness standards and low character standards, because I think that sends a wrong message.
Society has never commented on my life choices, probably because society knows better.
Unless you are harming someone, live your life how you want.
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er....people say it's wrong to have standards, just asking why??
"People" say it's wrong? You must be listening to a bunch of dweebs. Anyone with a lick of sense knows that it is perfectly normal to have preferences and standards.
I've have sort of wrestled with myself about having a "type" I thought it was small minded and shallow of me to be that way, but as of the last few yrs, I've pretty much given up on beating myself up of over it. I have a certain look in women that I like and it's just how I'm wired. I can appreciate women that fall outside of my type, but they just don't cause that stirring like the "type" I like. Most of this is moot as I've been in a LTR for a long time and am not on the market anyways.
I guess the short answer is that there isn't anything wrong with having a type or standard or however you want to label it.
there are differences between "standards" and "types". Standards are things like "must have high ethics", or "must be nice to dogs". "Type" is only liking someone with dark hair or a certain ethnicity. Standards are "who" they are and "type" is what they look like. Having both is not wrong, but you will miss out on wonderful people if you focus on the type. Standards are really what is important.
If this is what makes a person happy, why is that wrong?
You are free to have your standards, but other people are just as free to critique those standards. It is a pre requisite to liberty.
Because they offend you?
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