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Old 03-21-2014, 12:14 PM
 
Location: Sputnik Planitia
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Ive seen it time and again... people stay in less than ideal and unhappy situations for far too llog whether it is a marriage or just dating... why do people do it? Even when there are red flags all over the place they are blind to it and continue with the relationship thinking it will all work out!!

I know there could be many reasons but what do you think is the #1 reason why people stay in situations that they are less than totally happy with.
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Old 03-21-2014, 12:15 PM
 
Location: Middle of the valley
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Ive seen it time and again... people stay in less than ideal and unhappy situations for far too llog whether it is a marriage or just dating... why do people do it? Even when there are red flags all over the place they are blind to it and continue with the relationship thinking it will all work out!!

I know there could be many reasons but what do you think is the #1 reason why people stay in situations that they are less than totally happy with.

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Fear of the unknown and/or change

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Old 03-21-2014, 12:15 PM
 
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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Lots of people fear being alone. I don't get that myself, but it is very common.

Comfort of the known/fear of the unknown too, even if it is a bad known.

Lack of self confidence and self esteem is often/usually the root cause. So, I would say "low self esteem" is the #1 reason.
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Old 03-21-2014, 12:16 PM
 
Location: Katonah, NY
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Speaking for myself - I didn't realize that I was unhappy for awhile. It wasn't a purposeful act on my part.
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Old 03-21-2014, 12:23 PM
 
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Wait. I thought the meme was that all wives dump their hardworking husbands as soon as they can secure enough alimony and child support to live the high life without him.
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Old 03-21-2014, 12:26 PM
 
Location: Hampton Roads
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It's always easier to see things when you're not emotionally invested in any of it.
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Old 03-21-2014, 12:26 PM
 
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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Wait. I thought the meme was that all wives dump their hardworking husbands as soon as they can secure enough alimony and child support to live the high life without him.

Those are the smart ones. Lots of not so smart people out there.
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Old 03-21-2014, 12:35 PM
 
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Those are the smart ones. Lots of not so smart people out there.
Touche!
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Old 03-21-2014, 12:41 PM
 
Location: Wisconsin
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Can't see the forest for the trees...people usually don't realize exactly how bad it is or how unhappy they are finally have time away from the situation.
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Old 03-21-2014, 12:43 PM
 
Location: SoCal again
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Fear of being alone.

Fear of having to start all over.

Fear of what comes next.

Hope for a miracle that it gets better.
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