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Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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I'd love to year this as well. Every guy I know (including myself) has struggled to actually get any dates out of it whatsoever.
I don't know why some people just can't farthom that the venue just might be terrible. I guess it's just easier for some to be a hater than a thinker.
I don't know any guys that have had much problem getting dates with it. I haven't. I know far more women that do... or they get dates but the guys are total knobs.
It's just time consuming, so I advise people to do two weeks on, set up a few dates, and get back off. It can be a time sink and it's easy to get away from your passions/hobbies/paying attention to your friends when you'd doing it.
Online dating does not cause shallowness; it simply exposes it. When the mouse movements of millions of people are recorded in a database, we all get to see what is most important to the male and female population at large. And there are really no surprises. We filter out people who don't meet our physical and material requirements, then we try look for a good personality among the remaining people.
Do you think online dating is better for attractive people than average looking people? I feel like online dating promotes shallowness.
Yes, it does. Research has pretty consistently found that most people pay no attention to anything other than pictures when they look for dates online.
Every guy I know (including myself) has struggled to actually get any dates out of it whatsoever.
You do realize that if any dates are happening, it means guys are getting them, right? Unless you think only lesbian couples are finding each other online. The sample of guys you know must be rather skewed (to put it politely) if they're not getting dates at all on dating websites.
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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Yes, it does. Research has pretty consistently found that most people pay no attention to anything other than pictures when they look for dates online.
No wonder they're not having success. Sure, I look at pics, but 75% of the time I'm saying "she's cute" and hitting the back button after the first paragraph, and 90% by the end of the intro.
I don't know any guys that have had much problem getting dates with it. I haven't. I know far more women that do... or they get dates but the guys are total knobs.
It's just time consuming, so I advise people to do two weeks on, set up a few dates, and get back off. It can be a time sink and it's easy to get away from your passions/hobbies/paying attention to your friends when you'd doing it.
For women it's a piece of cake, particularly the more attractive they are. They still expect to be "approached" by potential suitors just as in real life, whether they admit it or not, so 99% of the time they sit back and wait to see what bites and then judge whether you're worth their time or not.
For men it's hard work. Just as with meeting women in real life, you're only get out what you put in and very rarely with anything fall in your lap. I can sit there with a cup of coffee in the morning on POF and sift through profiles for 30 minutes and maybe stumble across 2 or 3 profiles worth taking a swing at. Sometimes I get bored with the process and/or busy with other aspects of life and just don't have the energy or inclination to go wild goose-chasing. Most women's profiles I have no interest in based on bad geography, lack of attraction, or general stupidity. I'm pretty picky I suppose.
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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For men it's hard work. Just as with meeting women in real life, you're only get out what you put in and very rarely with anything fall in your lap. I can sit there with a cup of coffee in the morning on POF and sift through profiles for 30 minutes and maybe stumble across 2 or 3 profiles worth taking a swing at. Sometimes I get bored with the process and/or busy with other aspects of life and just don't have the energy or inclination to go wild goose-chasing. Most women's profiles I have no interest in based on bad geography, lack of attraction, or general stupidity. I'm pretty picky I suppose.
Well, that's your problem, POF. It's garbage. I looked twice at the site and decided never to do anything with it since it attracts the lowest common denominator.
I never found OLD to be hard work... but I didn't use POF.
Well, that's your problem, POF. It's garbage. I looked twice at the site and decided never to do anything with it since it attracts the lowest common denominator.
I never found OLD to be hard work... but I didn't use POF.
well not everyone can afford to pay for the high-quality sites like clowndating.com
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