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If you never had Ice cream, you'd never miss it.
If you never had chocolate, you'd never miss it.
Those of us whom have had good mothers, gave us affection we long for in our mate.
Our fathers taught us the expectations people have looking to men, or being male.
It is the example of a life time, not the words.
When the mate we chose does not turn out like our parent, we are disappointed .( It's uncharted territory)
It is like getting some new electronic device you have no instruction for.
What you choose to love ,is different. some make the adjustment some do not.
Memories of past loves ,are a fantasy ,largely forgetting certain realities that made it not work out.
I've been through it , and every time I do begin to fantasize about them, I endeavor too, to remember the things that dissolved the relationship. then I can move on.
I agree. I would rather have loved and gone through heartbreak than to be in the situation I am in now. I'm a 27 year old woman who is still a virgin and never had a relationship. At my age it just shows how unwanted I am and it gets depressing. People keep telling me I am lucky to have never felt heartbreak, but I disagree completely. It's getting to be too late for me to even find someone because of my virginity.
I agree. I would rather have loved and gone through heartbreak than to be in the situation I am in now. I'm a 27 year old woman who is still a virgin and never had a relationship. At my age it just shows how unwanted I am and it gets depressing. People keep telling me I am lucky to have never felt heartbreak, but I disagree completely. It's getting to be too late for me to even find someone because of my virginity.
Say what?
Where did you get that idea? I'm pretty sure it's not your age nor your virginity that's the problem.
Its hard-wired into a mans DNA to be the most strongest attracted to women in their late teens and throughout their 20's more than any other age group of women
Not directed at you, your post just reminded me, a lot of people talk about men being wired to be attracted to that age group because they're young and fertile as if women are wired to want old a$$ men. Men lose "virility" with age just as women lose "fertility". Nature coaxes both genders toward youth and yet there still aren't as many women chasing young boys.
That's not DNA/nature's doing. It's ours. Society gave older men the privilege of having young girls before women had the right to choose. Kind of set a precedent for the norm going forward and what people look for, though times are achangin'.
Not directed at you, your post just reminded me, a lot of people talk about men being wired to be attracted to that age group because they're young and fertile as if women are wired to want old a$$ men. Men lose "virility" with age just as women lose "fertility". Nature coaxes both genders toward youth and yet there still aren't as many women chasing young boys.
That's not DNA/nature's doing. It's ours. Society gave older men the privilege of having young girls before women had the right to choose. Kind of set a precedent for the norm going forward and what people look for, though times are achangin'.
You mean 50 year old women are going to start chasing 18 year olds
I used to wish I could find a way to erase the memories of the past,
especially right after things happened.
Then... serendipity brought me an amazing person who actually taught me techniques to
undo all of the pain. He really inspired me, uplifted me & taught me how to move on.
He turned out to be a very powerful presence in my life
Back on point- I'd rather avoid heartache, pain, betrayal & all that other toxic stuff....
so not worth it.
Say what?
Where did you get that idea? I'm pretty sure it's not your age nor your virginity that's the problem.
I didn't say it was my age or my virginity that is the problem. Nobody knows I am a virgin. But I am sure it would come up if I met a guy I am intimate with, and he might be turned off by that.
A lot of the guys on my social anxety forum believe it's impossible for a woman to be a virgin very late in age, and they think it's only a male problem. And so they say if they found out a woman was a virgin late in age, they wouldn't want her.
My problem is because I have social anxiety and I am ugly. So not only do I not have the looks, but I also don't have a personality to bring men in.
I agree. I would rather have loved and gone through heartbreak than to be in the situation I am in now. I'm a 27 year old woman who is still a virgin and never had a relationship. At my age it just shows how unwanted I am and it gets depressing. People keep telling me I am lucky to have never felt heartbreak, but I disagree completely. It's getting to be too late for me to even find someone because of my virginity.
You shouldn't feel that way. 27 is not too late at all. I am 45 and also have never had a relationship nor sex and do not feel its too late for me. I take extremely good care of myself and look in my thirties. So if it's not too late for me, in no way, shape, or form, is it too late for you.
I didn't say it was my age or my virginity that is the problem. Nobody knows I am a virgin. But I am sure it would come up if I met a guy I am intimate with, and he might be turned off by that.
A lot of the guys on my social anxety forum believe it's impossible for a woman to be a virgin very late in age, and they think it's only a male problem. And so they say if they found out a woman was a virgin late in age, they wouldn't want her.
My problem is because I have social anxiety and I am ugly. So not only do I not have the looks, but I also don't have a personality to bring men in.
I find that hard to believe and I am inexperienced for my age and only been with one woman sexually. Oh i am 30 so i am not that much older then you. It would not turn me off at all it would take the pressure off me to be good in bed for her. Than again i would want a girl first time to be special so that might give me anxiety LOL.
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