Dating within your league or "She's not even sexually attractive unless she is attainable" (wife, girls)

[timberline742]

Originally Posted by Artifice32

Have you been in a relationship?

Of course. Why?

[Artifice32]

Originally Posted by timberline742

Of course. Why?

Just getting a feel for the audience.

[srjth]

I got the premise of the thread immediately. There have been theories that have proven this.

Mere Exposure: being exposed to someone or something increases your liking for that person. (Zajonc, 1968, 1970)

People who perceive us as liking them will be more likely to reciprocate those feelings. (Berscheid & Walster, 1978)

[timberline742]

It's a pretty safe assumption since almost all adults have had relationships.

[Artifice32]

Originally Posted by timberline742

It's a pretty safe assumption since almost all adults have had relationships.

Not on city data it's not. Wait is talking about leagues taboo on city data if so I apologize didn't know it was taboo.

[Auraliea]

I don't believe in leagues.....

[orangeapple]

Reciprocation boosts attraction,IMO. Even the possibility of it can, and there's usually greater possibility with someone in your league (although I loathe that concept and find it problematic to use in any objective way...).

[BradPiff]

Attainability is hot and it leads to confidence.

[Checkered24]

I am not a big fan of "leagues" and think their presence only appears to exist when evaluating the very outer edges of the bell curve.

Anyway, beyond that, I think there is a point here to attraction. If as a guy you do not see yourself having a chance with a woman, your not going to feel overly attracted. Why would you? Not only is there nothing going on there at the moment, but you have already adopted the negative attitude that nothing ever will happen and therefore you are not even going to try.

IMO, what is ultimately attractive and sexy about another person really is not whether they fit some stereotypical body type, build, or image, but in the subtle and not so subtle details in how they carry themselves, how they interact with you, etc. (Such as, just a certain "look" in their eyes when you meet them)

[jsun556]

Yeah right.

I like a girl some may consider to be out of my league right now. I say some because half of my friends say yes, the other half say no. I consider her to be a bit out of my league but I took a chance and we have a date planned. She's stunning looking and nice at the same time.