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OK, so I didn't know what to call this thread so I cheated and gave it two names.
When I was a young lad of eighteen I remember being in college and on a three way phone call with two friends of mine. One of my friend's, who wasn't the most introspective type, was discussing the phenomena of an attractive girl on his small liberal arts college, "I mean she has a smoking body and everything but honestly I just don't find her sexually attractive. I think the way nature works is you have to have a shot to be turned on." That conversation stuck with me all my life. I've come to the conclusion that there is beautiful and there is sex appeal. I think a lot of the guys who have never been in a relationship confuse the two and I think this is what my friend was getting at. It's sort of like when a girl says, "he's good on paper but there is just no chemistry," the male version is, "she looks good but there is just no chemistry." This is all up for debate.
So, it occurred to me a lot of guys who have never had a relationship get caught up on women who aren't in their league. They may get caught up on images on television or other media and think that is what beautiful is for them. When in reality, "she looks good," but in real life, "there would be no chemistry," i.e. no sex appeal. The solution for these guys is to date within their league because there would be chemistry.
The way I see it: She's going to be just as sexually desirable whether or not she is obtainable but the plain looking woman who is attracted to me is going to look far more sexually desirable to me than the plain looking woman who isn't interested in me.
Fine, I lost all of City Data with this thread. OK, so I will be less general and less abstract and apply it to me. So, I'm on this E-harmony thing now. This is the first time I'm really getting into internet dating. I've been tossed thirty matches.
Now, there are about five matches who look like models. I mean super attractive and they dress the part, high maintenance looking. My thought process as I look through their pictures is, "man they are hot but ugh a relationship with them would be work and to be honest I can't imagine myself sleeping with them." Contrast this with the vast majority of girls on their who look average and I'm thinking, "hey, we can have a fun time and I'm sure the sex would be great."
So, the point I was trying to get at is the model types are out of my league therefore I feel no attraction towards them. The average girls are within my league but I feel tons of attraction towards them.
So, I'm happy to date within my league. Maybe some guys out there would have a better love life if they dated within their league. That's what I'm trying to get at.
The way I see it: She's going to be just as sexually desirable whether or not she is obtainable but the plain looking woman who is attracted to me is going to look far more sexually desirable to me than the plain looking woman who isn't interested in me.
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