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A few years ago, I met a guy. We were acquaintances, and it seemed as if he was interested in me. There was several flirty moments, and he was very sweet to me. Many times, he went out of his way to take care of little tasks for me. We just clicked. But no one ever said anything. Nothing happened. Then a year later, he briefly mentioned his girlfriend. I was deeply hurt and avoided seeing him from then on. We didn't really have a friendship to be able to hold on to anything, so I just went away. Plus, he started acting distant and cold toward me. I'm not sure if he acted this way because I started being around him less, and he was confused or if he didn't want to be around me.
It's been about a year and a half since I've seen him. A part of me wants to reach out to him to see how he's doing and see if we could get a coffee or something. On the other hand, I'm worried he is taken or that he will be inattentive towards me. Another thing is that we weren't really good friends to start with, so I don't know if it would even make sense to reach out or what he would make out of it. If it was someone else, I would let it go, but I felt such a strong connection with him. I really don't know what to do.
Any advice?
Last edited by zenspirit; 04-12-2014 at 03:15 PM..
Long answer short, he had a girlfriend, you were "hurt" which is your own issue and the moral of the story is to keep romance out of the office. It rarely ends well for one, the other or both and no you should not try to contact him, get on with your life.
It sounds like you should just let it go. Nothing ever really happened in the first place and there are more fish in the sea. You never even had confirmation that he actually liked you in that way in any case. And really, if you think it through, either he did like you and was busy flirting with you even though he had a girlfriend (not cool) or he didn't like you and it was all in your head.
If you really, really feel strongly about it then put the effort in to find out if he still has a girlfriend (Facebook stalk him? I dunno) and if he's single, send him a short email asking how he is doing.
I guess what you have to do is develop the confidence in yourself that you will eventually get over the rejection if it turns out he's not interested.
Hell, guys have to put themselves out there all the time. If they can do it, so can you.
That's true. If guys can, we should be able to. I guess I feel like he already rejected me in a sense when he told me about his girlfriend back then. So if he is still taken or not interested, I would be rejected twice. Is it worth it to take a risk again?
That's true. If guys can, we should be able to. I guess I feel like he already rejected me in a sense when he told me about his girlfriend back then. So if he is still taken or not interested, I would be rejected twice. Is it worth it to take a risk again?
That's true. If guys can, we should be able to. I guess I feel like he already rejected me in a sense when he told me about his girlfriend back then. So if he is still taken or not interested, I would be rejected twice. Is it worth it to take a risk again?
True, I hope I can handle it if it doesn't go well.
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