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She's definitely right. I think you'll come to see that attractive women are oftentimes the most friendly.
That's kind of funny because I think it's true.
I have always had an easier time talking to extremely attractive women than the ones who are less attractive. I think because I'm more motivated/excited/into it, and because the less attractive ones are always looking for something very specific/boring/ordinary/typical (much like themselves!).
Attractive women have seen it all/been around and are looking for something refreshing/different... or they have anxieties or something that also make them easier to talk to because I get to take the lead.
This is a generalization of course, but yeah-- it's always the ordinary, less attractive girls who seem to be more intimidating.
Sorry for off-topic-- ummmm OP this is why you shouldn't be afraid of attractive women!
Yes, confronting fears is important but the job of the therapist is to teach you how to confront those fears appropriately. For example, you can't tell someone who is claustrophobic to lock themselves inside a small container until they get over it. That would just lead to further trauma.
Also, I'm a fan of therapy and right after college I had to see a therapist to get over social anxiety to improve my work place environment. The therapy was CBT and it was called gradual immersion. It took ten weeks but it worked. So, when I presented the problem to the therapist which was essentially how to feel less anxious about talking to investment clients and superiors. His reaction wasn't to say, "oh you have some kind of illness now go out their and start talking to the CEO." No, that would have lead to bad experiences and I would not have had the tools to do it at the time.
Instead, he started me off slow. Assignment one say, "good morning and hello," to everyone as soon as you get out of your car from work and throughout the day. I did it. He then would recap in the session what I learned from it. Then the next assignment, "ask how their week is going or weekend went," do the same thing. I did it. He recapped how everything was done. Again, this may seem basic but it's gradual immersion. Then he said, "follow up with them with things they said." It took ten weeks but it worked. Before I knew it I was a social butterfly in my office and because of the positive experiences it was easier to work with the tougher clients.
No therapist I know would diagnose you quickly and then tell you to just do something. Even if there is such a thing outside the internet of a fear of beautiful women it would take more than one session to diagnose. Also, the therapy would be something akin to gradual immersion. For any sort of treatable anxiety gradual immersion is the standard.
I recently started therapy. I have had anxiety all my life when it comes to dealing with women. Ironically, the therapist is an attractive woman and it made me nervous. However, once I got the trust of my therapist I calmed down. As we talked, she immediately told me that I have Caligynephobia. It is the fear or phobia of attractive women. She told me that I feel that these women are better than me. She said that if I want to get over this phobia that I needed to stop thinking these women are better than me just because they look good. Also, I need to talk to women more. She claimed, we don't bite and we aren't as scary as you think. Then she told me talk to any woman you see even if it just to say hi. Is my therapist right for this?
Yes he is right...
Caligynephobia... fear of attractive women... cracks me up.
This whole post cracks me up, but you're getting therapy...
But she is right, you must practice talking to women just to talk to them. Don't put too much pressure on yourself to get an outcome. Act as if you are already in a relationship with the woman that surpasses the woman of your dreams. Talk to women as if you are just making conversation with no intention of going any further.
What I would do is put women on a pedestal. I thought they goddesses. Now I know they are just regular people like myself.
You know, I'm 29 years old. I was 28 when I made a similar realization (even though I knew it mentally, I just didn't feel the same.) I think therapy saved you at least 4 years. (You're 24 if I remember correctly).
You know, I'm 29 years old. I was 28 when I made a similar realization (even though I knew it mentally, I just didn't feel the same.) I think therapy saved you at least 4 years. (You're 24 if I remember correctly).
Yes, I am 24. I will continue seeing her, she's very encouraging and friendly.
She is a licensed and trained ****ing professional. Why are you asking us?
because armchair psychiastrists always know best
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