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Women, how many of you would have said "I do" to your husband if he would have asked you to sign a prenup beforehand?
Men, how many of you would say "I do" to a woman who asked you to sign a prenup?
If you are a person of even modest means, the way people are these days you would be crazy not to have one especially if you marry in midlife. If someone loves you, they will understand because you have too much to lose.
You hope for the best, but the dynamics can and sometimes do change in midlife where two people who are set in their ways have to come together and actually live in the same household.
To be honest, it's because of this issue that people in middle age tend to be skeptical of marriage. If you're not going to have any kids, there is a strong argument that marriage is legally more trouble than its worth.
It wouldn't make a difference. It would only prove I didn't marry her for her money. To be honest I may have a problem being with a woman who makes more money then me.
I don't know what the laws are in most states, but here each party has to disclose everything financial to the other and both parties have to have an ample opportunity to see a lawyer and get advice. You can't spring a prenup the night before the wedding and force someone to sign under duress.
Someone I know married someone who owns several apartment complexes. She was a divorced mom who had nothing; he had grown kids of his own. He paid for a lawyer to draft a fairly simple agreement and also paid for another attorney to look at her agreement. It had a sliding schedule where she was almost "buying" her way in, where she would get increasing portions of his estate over a 10 year period.
If you think about it, this makes a lot of sense for both parties. Who want's to put a lifetime of work up for grabs if the marriage doesn't work out?
It would depend on how he broached the subject and what his situation is. An established guy with significant assets or children from a previous marriage would of course want to protect those assets. An insecure guy bringing nothing to the table who just didn't want me to get "half his stuff" probably wouldn't make it to the marriage point with me anyway.
Signing a marriage license is basically signing a uniform state-created prenup.
Not necessarily.
Depending on the length of marriage, some states do provide for spousal support. A failed marriage may end up costing you in the long term.
Another issue always revolves around inherited wealth and gifts. Although they technically aren't marital assets, sometimes ownership gets transferred around over the course of a marriage and they inadvertently become marital assets. Also there is sometimes the issue of increase in value ... if you inherited a house 20 years ago and have been renting it out technically the spouse may be entitled to part of whatever income generated by the house?
In this day in age, better get it down on paper.
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