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I never had a girlfriend because that involves trouble that I'm not comfortable with. I could hardly trust someone that much (would always be thinking she was cheating on me) and like the fact I don't have to deal with a number of issues guys with gfs have (looking good all the time, having to keep her interested, etc).
I've been attracted by a few girls lately but I'm just friendly with them. I like to know I'm going to have a good night's sleep without being disturbed by those worries.
I simply accept this is the way I am and move on.
A very good female friend told me this isn't healthy but I can't understand why. I like to stay where I am and I'm not upsetting anyone.
Find a girl who is a good person, and you'll worry less about cheating. Don't date girls who are always party hopping, etc. And if a girl likes you, you don't need to worry about always looking good. She's not going to care. No superficial girls.
You just need to get comfortable with yourself and your feelings. You need to understand why you think the way you do about relationships and once you answer those questions you'll become more comfortable with the idea of having a girlfriend. There is something that is causing trust issues and/or a false sense of expectations around a relationship. You don't have to look good all the time or keep her interested...if she's with you, she is because she likes you regardless.
However, if I had a strong desire to be with someone, and I hesitated because I was afraid she might cheat on me, or because I didn't want to be bothered with the logistics of dealing with someone else's expectations, I would regard that as a huge problem. Everyone lives with the threat of being cheated on. Everyone has to meet other people's expectations sometimes. To have those fears be so strong they kept me from having a relationship would be a nightmare.
However, it doesn't sound like you have a strong desire to be with anyone...
If your happy with your life then her opinion shouldn't really matter. She cannot relate to how you feel, and because most people have romantic connections with the opposite sex, she thinks it's not healthy. It doesn't mean she right.
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If you do not feel like you are missing out on anything, and you are happy with where your life is, then there is nothing wrong at all.
No one can really answer this for you, this is a personal matter than can only worked out amongst yourself. Just re-evaluate what it is you want out of life. You may change in the future.
It's not bad if you're happy. The only time staying in a zone is bad is if you aren't happy, but are staying because it's all you know--like people in abusive relationships, and may have grown up around abuse.
Otherwise, it just sounds like you're happy being single, and don't want to deal with drama a relationship brings. That's fine. I will say they're not all bad if you find a good person. But, if you don't even wanna look, and are perfectly happy, then you are fine. It's great to be happy single, because not everyone falls in love, or gets a relationship. So, it is good you know how to be happy with yourself.
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