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Why are you bringing this up on the internet instead of bringing it up with the guy you're talking about. There's no reason why you should be a turtle stuck on its back. You're an adult. Communicate.
I haven't let him know that I'm looking for an FWB, he just knows I'm not really looking for a relationship(then again he has said that he doesn't believe me). He knows I'm sexually frustrated and that I eventually want to have sex, but he doesn't know I'm considering the FWB route. At this point he just thinks were "talking" or going on dates, he doesn't know that I'm trying to get a gauge on whether or not he would be a good FWB.
As I already told someone else in another thread, it's tacky to me, to just tell a guy I'm looking for an FWB and ask him to be one, whether than go with the natural flow of things and let nature take it's course so I have not told him that I wanted him to be an FWB.
And in all honesty until we kiss, I don't know if I want him to be an FWB, because I don't know what our chemistry is. That is another reason why I want to kiss, to see if we even have any potential or sexual chemistry in the first place. I mean we're attracted to each other, and get along good, but we haven't really done anything physical yet.
Why do you just want a FWB?
I think you should tell him that is all you want. He seems more like the relationship type of man especially since he is taking his time to make a move on you. I don't think you are being fair to him as he is probably thinking the two of you are heading towards a monogamous long term relationship.
What's with the threads with women bitching about men moving too slowly.... it's like your damned if you do and damned if you don't from a male perspective...
I find it amusing that its the same people who create thread after thread about all their dating problems. How could somebody have this many issues? Or be this bad at picking mates? At some point you got to start looking in the mirror.
You've already called him weird, haven't disclosed what type of relationship you want with him AND complain about him not making moves.
Either let him know you're only interested in FWB situation and be prepared to make the first move (is it really that hard? If so, get over yourself) or just stick to being friends and find another hookup that won't cost you a friend if things go south.
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If you don't know, don't do it.
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Definitely... I'm getting the sense of a little needless drama on the OP's part........
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Drama drama drama
OP:
Do you really want to be a drama queen? The damsel in distress?
The problem, faith, is that you dont know what YOU want.
Remember when you used to post about how guys wouldn't wait the period of time you required to have sex?? Then about a minute later you changed your mind and decided you wanted a FWB, even though those never work out?
Forget this guy. I dont think he's really into you. You might be horny for quite a while longer than you want, but that's life sometimes.
Be a mom to your baby, live an interesting life, and meet a guy who wants what you want and has more guts than someone who only sends you vulgar texts. Actions speak louder than words.
Agreed. Unless he's a virgin and doesn't know what to do.
So then why does he keep inviting me to go out and why did he ask me out several times despite me rejecting him each time. I'm not the one initiating the dates. If he doesn't feel chemistry I don't get why he would continue to waste time and money on someone that he isn't attracted to sexually?
Anyway I did send him a text late last night asking him why he hadn't kissed me. He told me that I act weird when he touches me and that I talk a lot but don't make moves or act interested. He then went on to say that he likes to take things slow anyway and get to know a girl before he gets physical with her.
The problem, faith, is that you dont know what YOU want.
Remember when you used to post about how guys wouldn't wait the period of time you required to have sex?? Then about a minute later you changed your mind and decided you wanted a FWB, even though those never work out?
Forget this guy. I dont think he's really into you. You might be horny for quite a while longer than you want, but that's life sometimes.
Be a mom to your baby, live an interesting life, and meet a guy who wants what you want and has more guts than someone who only sends you vulgar texts. Actions speak louder than words.
I know what I want. It's not a crime to change your mind about what you want because of where you are in life. Life is about evolving, things change, people change, perspectives change. At one point in time I wasn't looking for a relationship but was open to one. And that is around the time when I joined citydata and was dating but would not have sex without commitment. I struggled with being able to meet expectations with the men I was dating since I wasn't able to go out as often, and I know from past experience that relationships are a lot of work so I was turned off by that along with the dynamics that I've observed between men and women. But recently I realized that I really want and a causal companionship which is why I wanted an fwb or something similar. I know that they don't work out, but like I said I'm not looking for anything serious anyway soooo...
I thought he was into me but the consensus on this thread seems to be that he isn't and that's why he hasn't made a move. I can understand that objectively. But what I don't get is if he isn't into me why is he wasting time and spending money on me with these dates and continuing to ask me out. Actions do speak louder than words, so why want to spend time with someone, and keep asking them out, texting them frequently through out the week, etc if not interested? Beyond the kissing I never got the feeling that he wasn't attracted to me. if anything I always got the feeling that he was very attracted based on how he looked at me and other non verbal cues. But if what you are saying is true then yes I will move on, but not before I see him face to face on Tuesday to talk in person about the disconnect between us.
And I am a mom to my son. I go out with this guy once a week. The implication that I'm not being a mom to my son is a bit insulting but I will leave that alone. Anyway I appreciate your feedback.
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Agreed. Unless he's a virgin and doesn't know what to do.
If you don't know, don't do it.
