What is a "controlling partner"?

[techcrium]

Originally Posted by TJenkins602

It depends on the context. There are tons of other aspects of the relationship to put into consideration.


The words themselves are rather controlling, but in some relationships it is not a controlling thing to say. (I know what I said doesn't make sense but I would probably have to write a book to explain what I am trying to say)

So what does that mean?

It depends on the relationship if the act is controlling?

So an overly sensitive person would define it as controlling whereas a thick skinned person would not?


For example, my buddy would text me, "basketball claridge park 7:00PM sharp. Don't be late."


if I texted that to a girl then it would be considered "controlling" right?

[TJenkins602]

Originally Posted by techcrium

So what does that mean?

It depends on the relationship if the act is controlling?

So an overly sensitive person would define it as controlling whereas a thick skinned person would not?


For example, my buddy would text me, "basketball claridge park 7:00PM sharp. Don't be late."


if I texted that to a girl then it would be considered "controlling" right?

I know you are working with me here. I'm doing my best to verbalize it, but keep working with me. (I need to learn how to talk because I am getting tired of dropping F bombs and you are helping me refine my language ).



I'd say "controlling" is more on the person on the giving end than the person on the receiving end. If the overly sensitive person is feeling controlled, it is that person's responsibility to talk it out with the person he or she perceives as controlling. Just because you feel controlled may not necessarily mean you are being controlled.


That text, even though it is in the form of a command "7:00PM sharp. Don't be late." It is not necessarily controlling. It could be that if you are late, you are going to miss something that you would enjoy. Even if texted to a girl it wouldn't necessarily be considered controlling.

However, if you were late and the person who sent the text got really dangerous on you (threatened or committed physical harm for instance), then that is more controlling.


Okay, now that I think about it, I guess there is a little bit of control in even the most healthy of relationships depending how you look at it. I guess the correct terminology would be overly controlling.



You made me think. I love it!!!

[techcrium]

Originally Posted by TJenkins602

I know you are working with me here. I'm doing my best to verbalize it, but keep working with me. (I need to learn how to talk because I am getting tired of dropping F bombs and you are helping me refine my language ).

I'd say "controlling" is more on the person on the giving end than the person on the receiving end. If the overly sensitive person is feeling controlled, it is that person's responsibility to talk it out with the person he or she perceives as controlling. Just because you feel controlled may not necessarily mean you are being controlled.

That text, even though it is in the form of a command "7:00PM sharp. Don't be late." It is not necessarily controlling. It could be that if you are late, you are going to miss something that you would enjoy. Even if texted to a girl it wouldn't necessarily be considered controlling.

However, if you were late and the person who sent the text got really dangerous on you (threatened or committed physical harm for instance), then that is more controlling.

Okay, now that I think about it, I guess there is a little bit of control in even the most healthy of relationships depending how you look at it. I guess the correct terminology would be overly controlling.

You made me think. I love it!!!

Using fleetiebelle's example:

Ok so if I told my buddy: "Don't wear that, you look like an idiot/douche/retard/whatever!" is that controlling?

if I told my sister: "don't wear that, you look like a SL*T." is that controlling?

if I told my gf: "Don't wear that, you look like a SL*T." is that controlling?

[medellinheel]

People, the OP is trolling.

Unless he is mentally retarded he knows the difference between teasing and controlling.

[Katnan]

Originally Posted by medellinheel

People, the OP is trolling.

Unless he is mentally retarded he knows the difference between teasing and controlling.

^^^This.

As he said upthread: "I find it way more amusing hearing each of your definitions."