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I don't understand why couples have to get to a 'point' where they don't use protection anymore, unless they want a baby I don't see the reason they have to stop and why that is expected. You can't trust anyone not to cheat and lie about cheating.
For that matter (i.e., beyond the possibility of one person or the other having cheated), one person or the other may have been the victim of sexual assault (rape, molestation, incest, et al) and are too embarrassed or traumatized to reveal it. So instead of trusting everyone to be wholly forthcoming about every single sexual experience they have ever had (including both voluntary and involuntary sexual experiences), it is best to use protection and be each tested at regular intervals for the cross-section of diseases. How regular should the intervals be? I don't know. (Every six months? every year?)
And, for that matter, some may contract a STI/STD from a medical, surgical or dental procedure. And, if my memory serves me correctly, HPV, besides being able to not show any symptoms for many years after initial contact, can also be contracted by simple skin-to-skin contact with an infected person (i.e., not even involving exchange of body fluids or penetration of any of either person's bodily orifices).
My friend just learned that she contracted gonorrhea from a guy she recently dated. She's kind of flipping her sh*t, and I don't blame her--I would be too! On the other hand, I am a big proponent of safe sex all the time, every time, so I'm not worried about it happening to me.
Yet apparently when she contacted this douchenozzle to let him know, he said "sorry about that. Thanks for letting me know." As if he had accidentally eaten her yogurt out of the fridge at work, instead of given her an STI!
Now I realize that gonorrhea is treatable early, and I know that stuff happens, but isn't this a bigger deal than this dude is making it out to be? Or has this just become the acceptable risk of dating these days?
A permanent std is a very big deal. A treatable one is somewhat of a big deal if you are in a relationship as it indicates someone is messing around. It sounds like your friend situation was more casual and the guy probably figures it's par for the course. Your friend should find a faithful steady guy and be a faithful and steady girl. And she may want to get tested for HIV.
For that matter (i.e., beyond the possibility of one person or the other having cheated), one person or the other may have been the victim of sexual assault (rape, molestation, incest, et al) and are too embarrassed or traumatized to reveal it. So instead of trusting everyone to be wholly forthcoming about every single sexual experience they have ever had (including both voluntary and involuntary sexual experiences), it is best to use protection and be each tested at regular intervals for the cross-section of diseases. How regular should the intervals be? I don't know. (Every six months? every year?)
And, for that matter, some may contract a STI/STD from a medical, surgical or dental procedure. And, if my memory serves me correctly, HPV, besides being able to not show any symptoms for many years after initial contact, can also be contracted by simple skin-to-skin contact with an infected person (i.e., not even involving exchange of body fluids or penetration of any of either person's bodily orifices).
but the thing people don't seem to think that way, they seem to come to a point where it is 'okay' to not use protection anymore. I don't understand that. I agree with you people should keep using it and get tested regularly.
Maybe some of you "sexually active" people should read about the side effects of all the STD's. I recently learned that something as seemingly harmless as HPV can cause infertility in women, along with certain types of cancer. Did you know that there are some strains of gonorrhea that are extremely resistant to antibiotics. Do the guys know that one of the risk factors for prostrate cancer is multiple sexual partners. All this bed hoping is going to mess up a lot of folks lives.
Maybe some of you "sexually active" people should read about the side effects of all the STD's. I recently learned that something as seemingly harmless as HPV can cause infertility in women, along with certain types of cancer. Did you know that there are some strains of gonorrhea that are extremely resistant to antibiotics. Do the guys know that one of the risk factors for prostrate cancer is multiple sexual partners. All this bed hoping is going to mess up a lot of folks lives.
Not only that, but there's nothing guaranteeing that you'll get a "curable" STD if you have unprotected sex. It's a crap shoot every time. I think some people are too casual about how treatable some of them are to realize that there are others that will affect you for the rest of your life.
Hence why my friend's situation is so alarming to me!
Well, maybe he didn't know he had gonorrhea? The problem with a lot of STDs is people don't know they have it or they're asymptomatic while still remaining contagious.
If you're going to have sex with someone outside of a committed relationship (heck, even in a committed relationship given that something like HPV can be undetectable), you just have to accept it as a risk. Especially if you're having sex without a condom.
Frankly, gonorrhea is entirely curable. Why was she getting so upset about it? Take the antibiotics and move on. Hepatitis, herpes, HIV are all serious concerns. And HPV is scary, but widespread and hard to prevent or sometimes even know you have.
Did he KNOW he had gonorrhea when he slept with her? I'd be REALLY cranked then, but otherwise I'm not sure he should have even apologized. Do you apologize to someone for accidentally giving them a cold?
If you can't handle the possibility of an STD, you shouldn't be having sex. It's like driving around and freaking out if a rock flies up and dings your windshield. It happens.
You're wrong. People need to be protecting themselves and be honest with their partners. People who can't do THAT shouldn't be having sex.
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You're wrong. People need to be protecting themselves and be honest with their partners. People who can't do THAT shouldn't be having sex.
Sure, but how would a guy be honest about HPV? Again, not much an issue for the younger generation as there is a vaccine, but most active adults have it and there is no test for guys. Sadly, the negatives are mostly for women with it, but only a couple of the many strains can cause issues... and condoms don't prevent transmission. Most people don't know they have HSV2 either and are asymptomatic, and its not in the standard screen. You often have to fight or doctor/clinic shop to get it. People can only tell their partners what they actually know.
Is contracting an STI/STD really NOT that big a deal in this day and age?
Not on my planet. I am deathly afraid of it, that's one of million reasons why I remained a virgin. Your friend got lucky she got the treatable one. But the douche is wow, the nonchalance is dangerous. What if he has HIV or herpes?
Oh thanks for letting me know I gave you a disease that you will suffer for the rest of your life. Those people need to be shot. Like seriously.
Is contracting an STI/STD really NOT that big a deal in this day and age?
Not on my planet. I am deathly afraid of it, that's one of million reasons why I remained a virgin. Your friend got lucky she got the treatable one. But the douche is wow, the nonchalance is dangerous. What if he has HIV or herpes?
Oh thanks for letting me know I gave you a disease that you will suffer for the rest of your life. Those people need to be shot. Like seriously.
Right? I kind of still want to punch him in the face. And honestly, I want to slap some sense into my friend as well.
Sure, but how would a guy be honest about HPV? Again, not much an issue for the younger generation as there is a vaccine, but most active adults have it and there is no test for guys. Sadly, the negatives are mostly for women with it, but only a couple of the many strains can cause issues... and condoms don't prevent transmission. Most people don't know they have HSV2 either and are asymptomatic, and its not in the standard screen. You often have to fight or doctor/clinic shop to get it. People can only tell their partners what they actually know.
Bologne. That's just an excuse used by guys everywhere to keep spreading disease.
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