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Yes, it was the perfect approach, and he knew enough about me to know that I wasn't married, seeing anyone seriously, a lesbian, bat **** crazy, or blatently uninterested.
But something tells me this sort of "approach" is out of reach for some of our young Struggling Guys. The prefer to walk up to a stranger and awkwardly ask for a phone number.
I would imagine they can't possibly blow the chance to go out with you saying stupid things. Just getting the phone number and then calling later may be more comfortable for them.
not in the sense that i'm thinking. The way i'm talking about it, i meant places where a complete stranger would start talking to you. In your case, he wasn't a total stranger
As Ms Z. suggested, it's better to get to know someone before approaching them that way.
I don't expect to be approached anywhere, really, (if by "approached" you mean, "a guy coming up out of nowhere and asking me for my number, etc.") Some situations are conducive to striking up a conversation with someone, some aren't. Sometimes I'm not in the mood to make small talk. There's no magic formula.
I got the magic formula.
When I am in the mood for some small talk, I may or may not let you know.
If you want any more information out of me, you will have to take me out to dinner.
PM me when your in town.
aside from bars and clubs, are there any places that you expect once you go there, a total stranger might come up to you to ask you out?
I don't go to bars or clubs. The grocery store, coffee shop, bookstore, concerts, art fairs, conferences, lectures, post office, theater lobbies, just about anywhere will work, except on the street when I'm walking by. Group activities or classes are good, too, that should be obvious.
I was "approached" at my once-a-week security training gig by the director of our unit.
By "approached" I mean that we were chatting casually, as we had been for the past few weeks, and he asked me if I wanted to go to dinner
This is the only way I can do it, and it's how I met the woman I'm seeing now. It didn't feel nearly as forced.
I did have to change my daily routine so I was around more women though. I think all women think every guy who is alone is creepy, until they casually talk to them 4-5 times over a period of time.
Lol
Cold approach only works at bars when everyone is half drunk. For me, anyway.
I don't expect to be approached anywhere, really, (if by "approached" you mean, "a guy coming up out of nowhere and asking me for my number, etc.") Some situations are conducive to striking up a conversation with someone, some aren't. Sometimes I'm not in the mood to make small talk. There's no magic formula.
I agree. Anywhere can work, if people are in the mood to be approached. Try professional networking things, most people are there to talk to new people.
I don't go to bars and clubs, and I'm not "on the market" but I get approached at the grocery store, book store and baseball field...and once at work...actually, his kid did the approaching, which I thought was cute. I can't really think of anywhere else that a total stranger has come up to me and showed interest.
I whisper sweet nothings into the vent of the Port-o-Potty beside me.
A simple "I see you" can go a long way into starting a conversation
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