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I've been dating a girl I think is more of the homebody/introvert type. While I'm not exactly the life of the party myself, I do crave socializing. Going out with friends to bars, going to concerts, and staying out late has always been a big part of my enjoyment in life.
I enjoy doing the day to day stuff with her like making meals, shopping, day trips, going to dinners/happy hours. However, I feel like she is more comfortable and desires to end nights early. I feel like she prefers less stimulating environments than I do. I had a previous gf who always gave me **** about wanting to socialize, this girl has some very similar qualities to her. I don't want this to ruin what seems to be an otherwise fruitful opportunity. I'd hate to end what seems like an otherwise fruitful relationship but restraining my social habits makes me unhappy. Has anyone had any experience dating an introvert? Is dating an introvert not an option for someone like me?
Any reason why you seem geared towards girls who don't like to socialize as much as you do?
I wondered this as well.
I know of one example where an acquaintance is married, and he and his buddies like to socialize a lot, much more than their wives do. So what they do is after the wives and kids have gone to bed on Thursday evenings, the guys go out to the local pub and hang out, play pool, darts, drink beer. This fulfills their socializing needs, without taking away from time with their wives and kids.
You can find ways around it that doesn't have to spell the end of a relationship. The key is compromise on both sides.
Idk if it's possible to compromise on this actually.
I'm a homebody/introvert.
I hate bars & clubs...
( But I do like a good pub every once in awhile )
If I met a guy who had a serious habit of going out partying I wouldn't waste my time or his.
Idk if it's possible to compromise on this actually.
I'm a homebody/introvert.
I hate bars & clubs...
( But I do like a good pub every once in awhile )
If I met a guy who had a serious habit of going out partying I wouldn't waste my time or his.
There is definitely a spectrum here. She does go out with me some, just not as much as I'd like. Coincidentally, there haven't been a huge number of social opportunities with my friends since we started dating a couple months ago. I do realize I'm getting older also (30), so my "partying" days aren't as frequent as they used to be. However, I still yearn for the laughs produced in social settings.
I met this girl online. The previous gf I met through a mutual friend. For me, dating usually starts with a lot of alone time between my and my lady. A lot of "party girls" don't share the same level of mental stability and responsibility that more homebody types do. By the time I introduce her to other people, I usually have a pretty good idea if I like them as a person or not.
I don't wish to start an argument over this, but I also hate dragging people to do things they don't want to. Are my expectations to have a responsible, intelligent party animal like myself realistic? How can I discuss my preferences without upsetting her? Should I try to push her out of her comfort zone a bit and see how she reacts?
I never get this, to be honest, since basically once people get into serious relationships or married, they all become introverted homebodies, right? I mean, for the most part everyone I know who is married just goes to work, comes home, and that's it. I'm not married and I have trouble even having a phone conversation with them. After five minutes, they always have to go and run an errand or take care of kids or whatever married people do. That includes people who used to be big into clubbing or hitting bars.
There is definitely a spectrum here. She does go out with me some, just not as much as I'd like. Coincidentally, there haven't been a huge number of social opportunities with my friends since we started dating a couple months ago. I do realize I'm getting older also (30), so my "partying" days aren't as frequent as they used to be. However, I still yearn for the laughs produced in social settings.
I met this girl online. The previous gf I met through a mutual friend. For me, dating usually starts with a lot of alone time between my and my lady. A lot of "party girls" don't share the same level of mental stability and responsibility that more homebody types do. By the time I introduce her to other people, I usually have a pretty good idea if I like them as a person or not.
I don't wish to start an argument over this, but I also hate dragging people to do things they don't want to. Are my expectations to have a responsible, intelligent party animal like myself realistic? How can I discuss my preferences without upsetting her? Should I try to push her out of her comfort zone a bit and see how she reacts?
Bolded line is spot on
So much of this depends on how hard core of an introvert she is, lol
I love concerts....some introverts don't do crowds at all.....
Try to offer it in small doses, lol
Don't push too much too soon, or it can backfire
In my long life, I have never known someone who changed from being an introvert to an extrovert or vice versa. I think it is hardwired.
I think you should plan on her never changing, and see if you are ok with that.
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