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Well, my fiance is a homebody and maybe even a bit of an introvert. I am an extrovert and I love to go out and socialize. What neither of us like are things like clubs, concerts, things like that. I can't handle the noise and volume of people. He can't either.
With that said, if I want to go do something he will normally come with me. If he wants to go somewhere, I go with him.
I think we meet in the middle. We also do go out once a week with a group of friends on Sunday mornings for breakfast.
I'm an introvert. If a woman ever tried to push me out of my confort zone that would be the end of the relationship. Stop trying to change people. They are who they are.
Bolded line is spot on
So much of this depends on how hard core of an introvert she is, lol
I love concerts....some introverts don't do crowds at all.....
Try to offer it in small doses, lol
Don't push too much too soon, or it can backfire
Balance is good here. Both myself and my wife have a mix of introvert and extrovert characteristics. We both enjoy hanging at home but like going out, too.
In my experience, strongly extroverted women are "fun" but often unstable and find commitment difficult. Strongly introverted women can be intriguing and interesting, but are often boring after a while, and, for me at least, tend to be rather boring in bed, too. The best relationships I have had (including my marriage) are with women who had a nice balance of both.
YMMV, this is just my experience, not intended as a broad brush.
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I'm an introvert. If a woman ever tried to push me out of my confort zone that would be the end of the relationship. Stop trying to change people. They are who they are.
Being pushed out of your comfort zone, socially and professionally can be a very good thing at times. It helps people evolve and excel.
This thread is an example of how some people misunderstand introverts and extroverts. Essentially, extroverts are energized by constantly being around people, while introverts find that draining and typically need time alone to recharge. Introverts can be plenty outgoing and social but have a limited capacity for large groups or constant socializing.
I know a couple who have been married over 20 years. He is a major extrovert and she is an introvert. She socializes with him when she feels like it, and stays home alone when she feels like it. He often does things, including travel, without her. It works for them.
OP if you can understand whether she is a true introvert and if so, respect that about her, then you will be fine (in other words, don't try to "push her outside her comfort zone"). If you require a companion who is always by your side while you pursue your desired level of socializing, it may not work out.
And to whoever stated upthread that all married people are introverts who only go to work and come home, you couldn't be more wrong.
That's a good point. TO add to my last post, both my wife and I are probably somewhat more introvert than extrovert, but we do have a balance of both.
That said, we both enjoy SMALL social gatherings, but for big, huge events, we both end up wanting to leave earlyish. I can tolerate them better than she can.
As far as married people, many don't go out that much because they simply do not have the time, or have other priorities, it doesn't mean they have changed as people.
Balance is good here. Both myself and my wife have a mix of introvert and extrovert characteristics. We both enjoy hanging at home but like going out, too.
In my experience, strongly extroverted women are "fun" but often unstable and find commitment difficult. Strongly introverted women can be intriguing and interesting, but are often boring after a while, and, for me at least, tend to be rather boring in bed, too. The best relationships I have had (including my marriage) are with women who had a nice balance of both.
YMMV, this is just my experience, not intended as a broad brush.
Interesting.....
I'm a balance of Introvert 75% & Extrovert 25%
The bolded- nothing could be farther from the truth for me, personally lol
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The problem in relationships is the other is being pushed out to do things THE OTHER wants.
This is why it usually doesn't work out for the best.
Kind of depends. I would encourage people I date to try my passions, even if it isn't in their comfort zone, and I hope they would as well. I would never have tried hang gliding or rock climbing if it weren't for this. Didn't become passionate about them but I'm glad I tried them.
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