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I agree, the same could be said for men like that.
I'm gonna get some flack probably for this, but I think a lot of people keep themselves overly-busy to not participate in their lives, or as a way of not being alone time much with their own thoughts.
Being busy is the same as being a workaholic, the last of the vices that are socially acceptable still......
You're busy, right, you must be doing something productive.
This is just my opinion, of course.
I agree with this... but my busyness includes a lot of down time to myself to think, which everyone already knows I do in excess . That is something I make sure and have time for or I'd lose my mind, and I totally agree with the idea that is a lack of "participation" in life without this; you DO, but you don't PROCESS. It's a way of avoiding feelings too. I don't consider a few hours a day in thought to be "doing nothing" or unproductive though. That's why I have to be careful not to overload myself with commitments, because that time is as necessary for me as breathing and eating. I WILL begin to resent something when it interferes with this, and at times when basic life demands are pressing, the logical thing is to drop communication with people I have no real obligation to. So dating gets put on the back burner, as far as active effort.
I just wish busy women would stay the hell away from online dating. My experience lately has been this so far with ever woman I've met online:
1. Seems nice at first, but is hiding some major baggage, issues, or just plain nuts. I had one woman really want to meet me. She told me she had parkinson's disease. Then later, she said she lied to me about it. She was perfectly healthy but wanted to see if I would bail at her news. Thankfully I never gave her my phone number.
2. They are extremely busy in their life especially if they have kids. Maybe time for a date once a month. I can go days without hearing from them on text message, and if I complain then suddenly I'm the bad guy for not understanding that they have a busy life.
It's just not fair for guys to invest time into even responding to a profile when the reality is that the woman has too much going on for any kind of relationship. But they want a guy to be ready to jump at a moment's notice if they get a free night.
Have you considered the rule of common denominator? You are saying that a whole group of women are acting in one particular way. Yet many other people are not having the same experience at all. So what is the common denominator then?
Why it is you. This could simply be a "Its not them it is me" situation. You are misogynistic enough, for example, to declare that a whole group of women should stay away from online dating. Why should they? Because you DECREE it to be so? Coupled with your lack of any empathy for the fact that some women simply do have busy lives and this is WHY they have to use online dating rather than the more time consuming "natural" methods of meeting a partner.
Given your attitudes towards women displayed here, coupled with your lack of any empathy for the situations people in a modern world find themselves, I would be more inclined to suggest the way women are responding to you is because of who YOU are, not who THEY are.
I am so busy I don't even have time for OLD.. I do ILD ( in line dating). Trying to get a date from the queue of male customers that are standing in front of me.
But wait... It gets even more pathetic. I am selling theses men airline ticket so that they can leave town!
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In reality, the only way a single mother who works has time to date is if someone else is babysitting. IMHO, avoid single mothers. All she is looking for is someone else to help with the babysitting, childcare, chores at home, and paying for it all. She really has no time for you now, and probably will never have time for you. You will always come last, after the job, her children, and probably even her mother and family.
In reality, the only way a single mother who works has time to date is if someone else is babysitting. IMHO, avoid single mothers. All she is looking for is someone else to help with the babysitting, childcare, chores at home, and paying for it all. She really has no time for you now, and probably will never have time for you. You will always come last, after the job, her children, and probably even her mother and family.
Umm, kids can be left alone after a certain age, you know?
Also, they can be left at their father's, grandparents', etc...
In reality, the only way a single mother who works has time to date is if someone else is babysitting. IMHO, avoid single mothers. All she is looking for is someone else to help with the babysitting, childcare, chores at home, and paying for it all. She really has no time for you now, and probably will never have time for you. You will always come last, after the job, her children, and probably even her mother and family.
as long as the kids are Older school age like 14 and 15 it should not be too much of a problem
Try to empathize with the women here, please! The woman with Parkinsons probably has it really tough dating as men make so many snap judgements! She just wanted you to get to know her first, At least she told you pretty up front!
The women with kids genuinely ARE more busy. However, as women we're told to also let the man chase and not be too available. So I would say give it some time and don't expect an instant relationship
There are TONS of great single women out there who want a caring, attentive guy (I am one of them! ) It is true that women have a Lot of obligations.. we're expected to have careers and to have a full social life and also look great/stay fit (that's a TALL order!) so just because a woman is busy doesn't mean she's not dateable.. it just means she's getting to know you gradually to see if you and her are a good match.. my advice.. if you like a woman- give it some time. If someone is really not interested, they will not accept a date
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. That is something I make sure and have time for or I'd lose my mind, and I totally agree with the idea that is a lack of "participation" in life without this; you DO, but you don't PROCESS. It's a way of avoiding feelings too. I don't consider a few hours a day in thought to be "doing nothing" or unproductive though. That's why I have to be careful not to overload myself with commitments, because that time is as necessary for me as breathing and eating. I WILL begin to resent something when it interferes with this, and at times when basic life demands are pressing, the logical thing is to drop communication with people I have no real obligation to. So dating gets put on the back burner, as far as active effort.
