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But I love him and he doesn't have kids. There's the problem.
That doesn't make him your best option. He is going to go down and bring you with him.
I met a man online who was perfect for me. Unlike you, I did not want a man who was never married and had no kids. That is what I actually wanted. Someone who had been married with children.
I found what you were looking for. A man who had never been married and who has no children.
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This is smelling more and more like a anti-single people with children rant account than a sincere poster. I have struggle believing that anyone that thinks they're a prize like the OP does thinks an active alcholic that lives with his mother (in his middle aged years) is a better catch than a divorced dad with his life in order.
This is smelling more and more like a anti-single people with children rant account than a sincere poster. I have struggle believing that anyone that thinks they're a prize like the OP does thinks an active alcholic that lives with his mother (in his middle aged years) is a better catch than a divorced dad with his life in order.
I understand where the OP comes from in as far as what Catholicism teaches and its rules, she then should be VERY VERY VERY PATIENT and find a Single/Annulled Man without children with their life in some sought of order even if he's in a period of unemployment (common these days) but is a worker non-slacker type with a head on his shoulders.
This is smelling more and more like a anti-single people with children rant account than a sincere poster. I have struggle believing that anyone that thinks they're a prize like the OP does thinks an active alcholic that lives with his mother (in his middle aged years) is a better catch than a divorced dad with his life in order.
If it was a brand new poster I would agree with you but IDDY has been a broken record about this topic for over a year now. I think she's just a sad older woman who has this mental block in her head and is now reaping what she has sowed. Countless posters have tried to help her understand and she has refused to even entertain the idea that a man with kids could be a good option. So instead of choosing an awesome never married guy with no kids she has this alcoholic loser that she's fallen in love with. Sad but she's an adult and can make her own horrible choices in life.
If it was a brand new poster I would agree with you but IDDY has been a broken record about this topic for over a year now. I think she's just a sad older woman who has this mental block in her head and is now reaping what she has sowed. Countless posters have tried to help her understand and she has refused to even entertain the idea that a man with kids could be a good option. So instead of choosing an awesome never married guy with no kids she has this alcoholic loser that she's fallen in love with. Sad but she's an adult and can make her own horrible choices in life.
It comes down to the devil she knows, rather than the devil she doesn't know, and she seems brainwashed by her Church somehow. I was raised in a devout Catholic household and even my Irish grandmother would not have looked down on a divorced person like the OP does. IDDY claims to have all these standards and requirements, yet her current SO is worse than any of them.
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It comes down to the devil she knows, rather than the devil she doesn't know, and she seems brainwashed by her Church somehow. I was raised in a devout Catholic household and even my Irish grandmother would not have looked down on a divorced person like the OP does. IDDY claims to have all these standards and requirements, yet her current SO is worse than any of them.
I get it too, coming from a very Boston Irish Catholic family, my mom rejected my dad when he proposed because he wasn't Catholic. He converted (which took a long time then) and re-proposed.
If a church or a religion is getting in the way of you being happy, there is something seriously wrong IMO.
I get it too, coming from a very Boston Irish Catholic family, my mom rejected my dad when he proposed because he wasn't Catholic. He converted (which took a long time then) and re-proposed.
If a church or a religion is getting in the way of you being happy, there is something seriously wrong IMO.
IMHO it doesn't need to be in the way if she's patient and will get what she seeks eventually. Nobody said it was easy to potentially find an SO.
I don't have such headaches as I don't bother playing the game.
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IMHO it doesn't need to be in the way if she's patient and will get what she seeks eventually. Nobody said it was easy to potentially find an SO.
I don't have such headaches as I don't bother playing the game.
Or she won't. If people are going to have regimented standards that are inflexible due to external rules, they're going to have to accept they very well are going to more likely be alone (due to constricting artificially the pool) and they may be alone for ever. It's a martyr thing. Yeah, I'm alone and miserable, but I didn't break any rules!!
Or she won't. If people are going to have regimented standards that are inflexible due to external rules, they're going to have to accept they very well are going to more likely be alone (due to constricting artificially the pool) and they may be alone for ever. It's a martyr thing. Yeah, I'm alone and miserable, but I didn't break any rules!!
Congratulations.
If one values their religion this is the price.
Life isn't perfect.
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