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If you're in a relationship and find yourself fantasizing about being single and free instead of being tied down to one person, does that automatically mean your relationship's days are numbered? Or is this just a phase that most people go through sooner or later?
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This is a false dichotomy.
It doesn't not automatically mean your relationship is over, nor does it mean it is just a phase (and I'm not even sure if most people go through it either).
I have been with my wife for almost 16 years, and I fantasize about being single at least once a week, especially when she has an attitude, I think all guys do it. As long as you never act on it, or act like you are single than I do not really see the problem.
If you're in a relationship and find yourself fantasizing about being single and free instead of being tied down to one person, does that automatically mean your relationship's days are numbered? Or is this just a phase that most people go through sooner or later?
No on all counts.
It's common to fantasize sometimes (I don't know if most people do it but it's not unheard of), however what it means is going to vary per person.
If you think about being single constantly, can barely contain your hostility over the fact you are in a relationship and have to muster every bit of self control not to hit on other people I would say that's an issue.
Other than that it's a case-by-case kind of thing.
If the desire you have to be single again is strong and persistent, then i think this is a wake-up call that you need to address in one way or another with yourself and your wife.
We all have flights of fancy that make us feel more then what we are, and we have all been in relationships where that little voice inside your head was screaming "GET THE F*** OUT NOW!!!" and we just didn't listen.
As others have said, its not either or. Its something you should talk about, because you may not be happy in your relationship. You need to sit down with yourself, and think, why do I want to be single again. Am I not attracted to them anymore? Do they not make me feel happy? Am I lonely?
These are all feelings that are normal in a relationship, but you have to talk about them, or the "I want to be alone" will grow to the point where you can not fight it anymore.
If someone is wanting to be single, I would not think this is a phase. This person should be upfront and break up with the other person so that they can be free and the other can find someone else who wants to be in a relationship.
I don't have any desire to be single again....... being single is highly over-rated in my opinion......
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