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In other words - you can not rebut a single thing I said - so you are replying with a cop out.
And no - I am not a woman - so you did not even get THAT right either.
But it really is up to you - you can attempt to rebut what I said - or you can dismiss it with a cop out and wander off. No one is forcing you either way really.
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I really thought you were a woman dude... I don't like giving advise to women simply because I don't know how. The stuff that I know that works for men generally doesn't for women.
But seeing how you admit that you're a guy... I'll gladly proceed!
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You have been here - what - 3 months and you have reached the point of this rant already? As at least one other user has pointed out already - this post came across as more of a rant than anything else. Have you considered that perhaps the issue lies with your tolerance rather than the forum?
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From what I've scene, heard, and came from, this is the ultimate crying place. I'm not bashing it or anything just pointing out that there is a lot of clueless guys here.
I agree, my tolerance is very low when it comes to this type of stuff simply because the answer to all of it is so simple!!
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Your observations do not match my own. I find that this forum is very open about making sure people get advice when they ask for it.
If you feel the forum is lacking in good advice on it's threads - then simply step up to the plate and keep giving some on those threads.
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I don't have an issue with people giving advice, in fact I do it myself. But most of the advice I read is just flat out bad... I don't EVER see people making thread ABOUT advise rather than people asking for it. There are no "guru's" in a sense.
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What has that got to do with "masculinity" at all?
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You cannot rely on other people for happiness. This question actually made me laugh dude...
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How does happiness by motivation through passions and hobbies not apply exactly equally to women and children too?
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It probably does? But I'm not a woman nor have the proper advice giving experience with women that judgement. Which is why I didn't want to reply to you in the first place!
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How have you established that men are naturally independent? We are a social species and our independence is highly mediated by this. Also are you suggesting women are somehow less independent than men in some way?
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Were clearly on different pages at this point.
Independent as in happy and don't need others to make you happy. You can have friends but those people don't dictate your happiness. Women CAN be independent, but it is very different from male independence.
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Speak for yourself. You certainly do not speak for me - or any guys in my circle.
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I highlighted something in red in my original post, read that.
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Which attributes exactly are you defining as "feminine"? Stalking? Is that not just misogynist gender bashing?
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When "men" treat women like they're the greatest thing on earth. Men, who have a decent state of mind, do not ever do that. I'm not sure of your experience regarding women, but when you find/get a girl really interested then she will make you feel like a king. But you cannot do the same.
I don't make the rules I just notice and obey them dude.
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Why does it have to be one or another? Sometimes people simply do not want to be in a relationship with the person who wants to be in a relationship with them. Its not about anyone being "wrong" or being "weak and needy". It is just as simply as human attraction is not present in these situations.
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Because the world is Black and White. Especially when it comes to attraction.
That "attraction" is not present because at least ONE person is doing something unattractive to REPEL the other party, male or female. From males, it's generally weak and needy or complacency. For females, it's generally not taking care of yourself/with holding from intimacy. These BOTH can be the cause of one another however.
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How are you defining "masculine man" exactly? So far your definitions of masculinity have been either absent, or really off kilter.
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I defined it in my original post, I think it was in the first paragraph or something.
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Again things you are applying to masculinity appear to be things that apply equally to women too. Nothing you have listed in this paragraph are "man" things. They are "people" things. Both sexes.
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You believe WAY to much in equality dude... I believe in equality as well don't get me wrong, but certain things MUST stay in their respective shells. There's a reason why men have a penis and women have a vagina.
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This is probably the only thing in your post so far that I can agree with. It is certainly a strength in life - for BOTH sexes again - to simply be comfortable being who it is you are. That comes across. And as I said it applies equally to both sexes.
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Probably, I would like to think so.
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That is unhelpful. And it does not follow. Perhaps you can be correct to suggest they do not like themselves. Many people suffer from this. But that does not mean they suck. Not at all. And telling them that they do will only compound their self-dislike further. Pushing people with a self image or self loathing problem further in that direction by telling them they suck - when there is no reason to think they do - is not a helpful or accurate approach. It is simply a mean spirited kicking of people when they are down. And I do not recognize the pedestal from which you presume to do it.
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Egotistical minds will succumb to NOTHING but praise and approval. That is why they currently "suck." They rely on others for happiness. I want them to improve don't get me wrong but they have to realize that they are living in a false world and have the drive to improve. There are people out there who want to improve but there are far more egotistical/weak people.
I do not cater to those people.
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That form of unsubstantiated and false generalization about the female sex as a whole is not likely to cause people to put much stock in anything else you say.
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This tells me you know very little about women/relationships, that's fine we all start somewhere. Just because you don't like the sound of something it still doesn't mean it isn't true. Wake up dude.
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This is not something I have ever agreed with or seen reason to agree with really. I agree some men and women might have that perception of themselves. But that does not mean those perceptions are warranted - at all.
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I'm not sure what you are talking about here.
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That is not the best advice at all - it is one of the worst. We are attracted to who we are attracted to. Simple as. We should not compromise who we are - or what we want - just to get _something_. That is neither fair on yourself - or the person who ends up with you - who should be with someone who actually wants them fully - and not with someone who just settled for them because they could not get better.
I would want to be alone forever before simply compromising and ending up with someone I did not really want to be with at all.
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There's a difference between liking yourself and liking a fake self. Your ego will always supply a fake self and will compromise improvement. Once you get a hold of your ego, that's when you can never stop improving. The problem with your statement is that people will begin to think "oh well If I'm fine now I don't ever have to improve or change for the greater good" whether they say it or not, they will do this. That is how people are.
Change is what makes great people.