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I hope not. All (not most but all) my very close friends are very happily married. So Yes, I have hope.
There is always the hope that you'll find love. Love is a novel concept, and I believe there are different types of love out there. The key is to love yourself for who you are. We all make mistakes, we all grow and change with time in our lives.
I just try and not grow cold with the whole idea of love. I am always open to finding my one, but she has to be one hell of a woman.
There is always the hope that you'll find love. Love is a novel concept, and I believe there are different types of love out there. The key is to love yourself for who you are. We all make mistakes, we all grow and change with time in our lives.
I just try and not grow cold with the whole idea of love. I am always open to finding my one, but she has to be one hell of a woman.
and let's hope she doesn't gain weight. hahahhahaha
and let's hope she doesn't gain weight. hahahhahaha
The weight wasn't the only issue I had with my ex You know that. There was a lot of lying, cheating, and other things that happened.
As I've said on here in other threads, if she had made an effort to keep herself healthy and attractive, then there may not have been all of the issues that we had come up over time.
When I split with her I mentioned 3 things. 1. I wasn't happy with our communication, 2. I wasn't happy with her lies and laziness, 3. I no longer found her attractive.
Lots go into each of those three points, but those three summarized the whole thing. At a party with my sister this weekend, I hear her from across the bonfire "You had 4 kids, you look amazing. My brother left his ex because she gained weight after the first kid, and kept gaining it throughout" I had to yell back, thats not the only damned reason, but no one likes cottage cheese
"Old" and "young" people live in different worlds. Young people look at mirrors and see only themselves. Old people look through a 2-way mirror and see their own histories in the lives of the young people in front of them.
The weight wasn't the only issue I had with my ex You know that. There was a lot of lying, cheating, and other things that happened.
As I've said on here in other threads, if she had made an effort to keep herself healthy and attractive, then there may not have been all of the issues that we had come up over time.
When I split with her I mentioned 3 things. 1. I wasn't happy with our communication, 2. I wasn't happy with her lies and laziness, 3. I no longer found her attractive.
Lots go into each of those three points, but those three summarized the whole thing. At a party with my sister this weekend, I hear her from across the bonfire "You had 4 kids, you look amazing. My brother left his ex because she gained weight after the first kid, and kept gaining it throughout" I had to yell back, thats not the only damned reason, but no one likes cottage cheese
We all have our stories to tell. We all get dumped, we all have our hearts broken. But we move on and hope there is somebody waiting for us in the near future.
When my ex died, I thought i would never find true love again. I remember I told my counselor, "I've never thought I could have find him, he is so perfect in every way. and the most amazing part is that he picked me to love. Now, he is gone. what am I going to do?" She said, "Well, you never though an amazing guy like him could come to your life, but he did exist and picked you. What makes you think you cannot find somebody equally amazing? Never say never."
I understand your feeling for your ex, my brother in law (well ex bil) had a long talk with me and he said "I know you will always hate me because I hurt somebody you love and I am not being honest, but you will never know what I have sacrificed in that relationship. Your sister is not somebody very easy to live with."
Well, I will never "like" my ex brother in law, but I am sad that he is no longer part of us. I don't know why. He has slept with the color of rainbow and had called my sister one of those vanilla folks. I hate him for that. I hate him for making my sister feel so bad about herself. She is a beautiful woman. well, maybe not the classic beauty, but she is all that in my eyes. I dont understand why can't he just treat her with some kind of respect.
Maybe one day I will get what he is saying. For now, I have the right to dislike him.
I do know that he never loved my sister, he lost attraction, I get all of that. i don't judge him for that. But I do judge him for disrespecting her. I don't think I will ever forgive him for that.
You and he are completely different men. You never cheated on your ex, for that, I think you are a very decent man. Unfortunately, not every man is like that.
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I'm 50 and at 49 met and fell in love with the most incredible woman. Without a doubt she is my soul mate, and I truly believe that everything I've done and every decision I've made has led me to her. We were engaged for a very short time and married in May. I have never been this content and happy in my life. She no doubt completes me at my very core.
I will admit though, that just before Tonya and after my divorce (20 year marriage, 2 kids), I had completely given up on love and just hoped to find someone I could settle for.
I don't believe in the soul mates only because over the years I have met many men with whom I could be perfectly happy in a LTR.
When you are very young, you can't understand that you have the same feelings at 46 and 56 and 66 that had at 26. You've just been around longer. Medical issues notwithstanding, being older does NOT make you any less able to love and feel attraction.
Soul mates....yup...believe in that too, though I don't think everyone will get the opportunity to meet their soul mate.
To me a soul mate implies the 'One and only' that you will meet in the world. With the world population of 7 Billion the chance of you meeting your 'One and only' soul mate would be like winning the lottery every week for a year
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You know that. There was a lot of lying, cheating, and other things that happened. 
