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Old 11-03-2014, 08:24 PM
 
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guys I have a question. If a guy "lost" it while being intimate. What could be the cause? I'm a woman and it happened to my date. It was awkward and I kinda took it personal.
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Old 11-03-2014, 08:28 PM
 
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Hmmmm, could be a variety of reasons. Performance anxiety, too much alcohol, medication, stress. And of course maybe he's not into you that much.

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Old 11-03-2014, 08:35 PM
 
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We didn't have any alcohol. He's very athletic and heathy. I stayed over night and nothing happened. Imagine that!
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Old 11-03-2014, 08:36 PM
 
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Lost it? As in retreating wood? Or no wood?
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Old 11-03-2014, 08:40 PM
 
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We didn't have any alcohol. He's very athletic and heathy. I stayed over night and nothing happened. Imagine that!
Don't over think it.

Athletic and fit have VERY little to do with the brain.

If you dig him, let things progress naturally, it will come around.
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Old 11-03-2014, 08:40 PM
 
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guys I have a question. If a guy "lost" it while being intimate. What could be the cause? I'm a woman and it happened to my date. It was awkward and I kinda took it personal.
Nerves. This happened to me with one guy and despite his outer display of confidence he was VERY insecure inside and basically fell apart when it came to "it".

I think that when a guy is insecure and he actually has feelings for a girl, he starts to feel very vulnerable and that can kill the mood for him. He's so worried about being good enough that he loses it.
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Old 11-03-2014, 08:41 PM
 
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nerves. This happened to me with one guy and despite his outer display of confidence he was very insecure inside and basically fell apart when it came to "it".

I think that when a guy is insecure and he actually has feelings for a girl, he starts to feel very vulnerable and that can kill the mood for him. He's so worried about being good enough that he loses it.
bingo!
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Old 11-03-2014, 08:42 PM
 
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We didn't have any alcohol. He's very athletic and heathy. I stayed over night and nothing happened. Imagine that!
That is unusual, but it does happen. Although in my life I can only remember it happening to me maybe once or possibly twice. If it's a continuing thing then it's a problem. I think you're going to have to discuss this with him.
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Old 11-03-2014, 08:42 PM
 
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guys I have a question. If a guy "lost" it while being intimate. What could be the cause? I'm a woman and it happened to my date. It was awkward and I kinda took it personal.


Lost what? Keys? Wallet? Hair piece?
Why not ask him why there was an issue, he would know or should know.
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Old 11-03-2014, 08:50 PM
 
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guys I have a question. If a guy "lost" it while being intimate. What could be the cause? I'm a woman and it happened to my date. It was awkward and I kinda took it personal.
You took this personally? Really??

Totally his issue.
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