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A lot of women don't think in terms of "dating range", a 1-10 scale, and all that. They just want to find someone they can have an intelligent conversation with, who's kind, considerate, self-supporting, and shares some interests with them. That description can come in any wide variety of packages. The packaging doesn't matter, so much. So there is no "range". There's just compatibility. It's either there, or it isn't. It's hard to find.
Last edited by Ruth4Truth; 11-08-2014 at 01:03 PM..
A lot of women don't think in terms of "dating range", a 1-10 scale, and all that. They just want to find someone they can have an intelligent conversation with, who's kind, considerate, self-supporting, and shares some interests with them. That description can come in any wide variety of packages. The packaging doesn't matter, so much. So there is no "range". There's just compatibility. It's hard to find.
If I happen to run into someone I like I take it from there, they don't like me, oh well. I move on, and get on with my life. All that extra stuff I don't think about until I actually know the person.
I'm sure there are many many more things that people look for in a mate.
What's the point of lowering your standards on personality? You can either live with someone, or you can't. You either get along and hit it off, or you don't. Are you saying you'd be ok with someone boring, or negative, or controlling, or unable to hold down a steady job, or lazy, or prone to anger or drama? Really?? You'd be ok with someone who didn't have much of a sex drive? Or who refused to do oral? If you found someone willing to marry you who had a lot of money and looked like a model, you'd be ok with letting the rest of those criteria go? You'd be ok with putting up with infrequent sex and a lousy personality? For the rest of your life? Or even for a few years? Just for money and looks?
What's the point of lowering your standards on personality? You can either live with someone, or you can't. You either get along and hit it off, or you don't. Are you saying you'd be ok with someone boring, or negative, or controlling, or unable to hold down a steady job, or lazy, or prone to anger or drama? Really?? You'd be ok with someone who didn't have much of a sex drive? Or who refused to do oral? If you found someone willing to marry you who had a lot of money and looked like a model, you'd be ok with letting the rest of those criteria go? You'd be ok with putting up with infrequent sex and a lousy personality? For the rest of your life? Or even for a few years? Just for money and looks?
I don't believe you.
I don't think you understand the context of what I am implying.
Someone will have a set of standards before dating someone, everyone does even if they don't acknowledge it, these are called judgments, we all make them from the moment we open our eyes in the morning to the moment we shut them before sleep at night.
If someone is walking around thinking they can be with a rich strong woman that is highly successful in the business world, ultra attractive etc. but they don't have the looks or PERSONALITY to back it up (educated, strong business sense, etc.) they will not be able to date this woman. Lowering your personality standards will likely be the key to your success in the dating world.
As far as your immature comment at the end, I will just ignore it.
The notion that lowering your standards to increase your dating potential is a very good real world application.
The problem, some people do not know their level or dating range.
How does one go about knowing their standards, so they can appropriately date more?
I have my own experiences to answer this, but I'm interested in other opinions.
I wont lower my standards to increase my dating potential. And I don't accept it as a real world application either. I know What is my level and my standards and I know what I am looking for so your theory does not imply me.
I wont lower my standards to increase my dating potential. And I don't accept it as a real world application either. I know What is my level and my standards and I know what I am looking for so your theory does not imply me.
Obviously not.
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