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My wife and I got officially engaged after knowing each other 80 days. 6 months later we got married. 38 years and counting and we're still smiling. My son met his wife and they tied the knot 6 months later. They're married 5 years and have a couple of kids. They also seem pretty happy.
Personally I wouldn't recommend a quick marriage for anyone. I also can't recommend sex before marriage. The sex fog clouds your thinking too much. Better to keep a level head, and consider the person based on compatibility, values, honesty, faithfulness, kindness and love, rather than just how good the sex is.
Might work for some people, but I bet it wouldn't for me. I've always found that everything is euphoric for about the first 3 months, then all the quirky behavior you thought was cute becomes irritating, and some of the larger character flaws don't come out until the 6-12 month period.
Marriage? Two to three years for me please.
We got engaged just under eight months after meeting, and got married thirteen months almost to the day after our first date. For us, I would say that after the first couple of months, we'd uncovered any and all quirks and determined we were fine with them. There haven't been any unpleasant surprises.
We got engaged just under eight months after meeting, and got married thirteen months almost to the day after our first date. For us, I would say that after the first couple of months, we'd uncovered any and all quirks and determined we were fine with them. There haven't been any unpleasant surprises.
Congratulations! I understand that it does happen a lot more frequently than I know.
My rules were for the men that I dated protection as well, probably more so than my own.
I just find that in general, people can maintain a good front for a few months, and then start to deteriorate from there. I have no doubt that some people can either read people faster, are not PITA themselves, more laid back, etc.
I think it would make an interesting poll.
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I think the first few months are definitely still a "best behavior" phrase, which can mask actual hot-button issues.
Someone once told me, anecdotally, that a high percentage of couples report having their first "real" argument right around month three...that it's apparently a sweet spot on the timeline where initial impressions have been sufficiently made, and people feel secure enough to voice concerns with less fear of the other party walking away. No idea how accurate that thesis is, but I've known it to play out that way, myself.
I know someone who just got engaged after meeting their SO 6 months ago. Don't know when they plan on marrying, but I would guess within the next year.
Are you talking getting engaged or actually married?
I think the older you get the less time it takes you to know if someone is right for you. But I still think 3 months is way too fast.
I would agree with that completely. But yeah, 3 months?? I would say at least 1 year minimum before I would propose, and at least 3-4 of those months we would have to live together.
If done when young and then not complicated by having children too soon
or other financial/work difficulties... some can work well. Maybe even 4 in 10.
I think you need to stay with someone long enough to make sure they aren't chronic liars before you get married. Other than that, as long as they aren't a liar or cheater, most things can be worked out by people who want to work them out.
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