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If there's somewhere you really really want to go to, but they don't (such as Uzbekistan/Mongolia), would it be wrong to take off and go there yourself?
Do you think it's wrong, or do you think it's everyone's right to travel anywhere they want to, if they're paying for it themselves?
Of course you'd be honest and talk to them about it...but do you think it should reasonably upset them?
You have already asked your spouse. My girlfriend went to London to her friend. She asked me to go but I was busy at work. I didn't make her feel guilty. I fully supported her and I only care if she has safe and fun trip.
For many years, I traveled alone on work to places all around the world. I worked during the day with clients. At night i'd work in my room, eating potato chips and guzzling Pepsi. My reply to my wife's query, "What's [place] like"? I would always say, "Boring".
Finally, about 10 years she decided the Western Cape was not boring, based on some internet searching. I relented. It opened up a whole new world for me. I stopped working so much and started having fun.
How could i have been so stupid?
And i stopped going to crap holes, some of which were not only boring, but also dangerous.
Oh, if your wife says she's going to The Gambia, i'd go along!
If there's somewhere you really really want to go to, but they don't (such as Uzbekistan/Mongolia), would it be wrong to take off and go there yourself?
How is this the business of anyone other than the two people in the relationship? If the two of you decide it's okay, then it's okay. If you don't, then it's not. If one of you thinks it's okay and the other doesn't, and this difference is a dealbreaker for you, then find a different partner.
My SO and I like to go on separate vacations sometimes, but it takes a level of trust that not everyone has.
If there's somewhere you really really want to go to, but they don't (such as Uzbekistan/Mongolia), would it be wrong to take off and go there yourself?
Do you think it's wrong, or do you think it's everyone's right to travel anywhere they want to, if they're paying for it themselves?
Of course you'd be honest and talk to them about it...but do you think it should reasonably upset them?
I think the spouse would reasonably be upset if they thought you would be traveling somewhere unsafe, just going there to cheat or do something else you shouldn't be doing, using money for this trip that is needed for other things, or being away during a time where you would be needed at home.
Otherwise, I think the person should be able to go alone if their spouse doesn't want to accompany them.
I don't see the problem with traveling internationally with out your spouse. During my international travels I met many people who did so. I'd like to think whoever I marry would be up for wanting to travel to a wide variety of international places but if they don't then they'll need to be ok with that fact I will go solo. To expect me to just stay in the USA or only travel to such a narrow set of places would be someone who I was not compatible with.
I have a friend who seems to be struggling with this. Her husband doesn't like to travel at all. They've been on one vacation during their 5 years of marriage and he whined the whole time. She told me she was jealous that I had gotten to go on all these international trips. She is finally looking into a solo trip.
I do not like to fly, and will not get on a plane at all.
My husband travels for work internationally all the time.
Win-win for us and
If there was a place he would want to go to leisurely, I'd help him pack his bag, just so long as he didn't pester me to go.
I'd be more upset if he went to a hockey game without me, especially if he had good seats, like last night
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Just not with the same crowd as you.
It is not wrong if
