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Actually, I meant "breach". Spelling error on my part. We had a really good time last night. Had drinks with her, spent the night. There's still some uncertainty hanging in the balance, but I'm just going to roll with it for now. She even texted me this morning telling me she had a great time. I'm making her dinner tomorrow night.
What's the uncertainty? Is sex and sleeping over getting in the way of seeing things clearly?
Oh au contraire mon frere, I have enjoyed this thread very much. It is a great insight into the mind of some men. It has however, displayed your over analysis of dating. But nonetheless thoroughly entertaining, so no need for being bitchy to me.
Again, I can't control what other posters post here. Most of my comments on this thread have been responses to questions asked of me. I try to be a good OP by responding to my audience.
Not trying to be bitchy to you, just telling how how it is.
What's the uncertainty? Is sex and sleeping over getting in the way of seeing things clearly?
So a couple things from last night.
I asked her about how she felt about us and the direction our relationship was going. She said she was very happy with us, enjoyed me very much, but she wanted to take it slow because she's been hurt in the past. Fair enough. Won't read much else into that.
Another thing happened at the bar that sort of rubbed me the wrong way. Trying not to over analyze it though. We went out because I had agreed to buy her a drink over a fun little bet we made. She ended up ordering a few drinks. So when the bill came (almost $100; it was kind of a fancy place I guess), I jokingly (but seriously) told her I would buy her the one drink I had agreed to. Well, she sort of made a small fuss over that, even asked me if I had entertainment money in my budget, but she ended up buying her other drinks. Nothing came of it afterwards, but I found that to be kind of odd.
Another thing happened at the bar that sort of rubbed me the wrong way. Trying not to over analyze it though. We went out because I had agreed to buy her a drink over a fun little bet we made. She ended up ordering a few drinks. So when the bill came (almost $100; it was kind of a fancy place I guess), I jokingly (but seriously) told her I would buy her the one drink I had agreed to. Well, she sort of made a small fuss over that, even asked me if I had entertainment money in my budget, but she ended up buying her other drinks. Nothing came of it afterwards, but I found that to be kind of odd.
When you offer to buy someone a drink when you're going out, it usually doesn't mean one drink or it isn't limited to one drink.
This sounds like a wreck. You're pointing out that you'll "buy the one drink that (you) agreed to". Who does this to someone they've been on many dates with and has slept with? Forehead slapping move.
As does her making a fuss and her entertainment budget comments. Those were just not nice, and I suspect in retaliation, but still, not nice. She sounds, well, I don't think I care for her.
Another thing happened at the bar that sort of rubbed me the wrong way. Trying not to over analyze it though. We went out because I had agreed to buy her a drink over a fun little bet we made. She ended up ordering a few drinks. So when the bill came (almost $100; it was kind of a fancy place I guess), I jokingly (but seriously) told her I would buy her the one drink I had agreed to. Well, she sort of made a small fuss over that, even asked me if I had entertainment money in my budget, but she ended up buying her other drinks. Nothing came of it afterwards, but I found that to be kind of odd.
I asked her about how she felt about us and the direction our relationship was going. She said she was very happy with us, enjoyed me very much, but she wanted to take it slow because she's been hurt in the past. Fair enough. Won't read much else into that.
So she's ok with having sex with you, but just doesn't want to initiate conversation when you're not together since she's been hurt in the past. Ok.
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Another thing happened at the bar that sort of rubbed me the wrong way. Trying not to over analyze it though. We went out because I had agreed to buy her a drink over a fun little bet we made. She ended up ordering a few drinks. So when the bill came (almost $100; it was kind of a fancy place I guess), I jokingly (but seriously) told her I would buy her the one drink I had agreed to. Well, she sort of made a small fuss over that, even asked me if I had entertainment money in my budget, but she ended up buying her other drinks. Nothing came of it afterwards, but I found that to be kind of odd.
I asked her about how she felt about us and the direction our relationship was going. She said she was very happy with us, enjoyed me very much, but she wanted to take it slow because she's been hurt in the past. Fair enough. Won't read much else into that.
Another thing happened at the bar that sort of rubbed me the wrong way. Trying not to over analyze it though. We went out because I had agreed to buy her a drink over a fun little bet we made. She ended up ordering a few drinks. So when the bill came (almost $100; it was kind of a fancy place I guess), I jokingly (but seriously) told her I would buy her the one drink I had agreed to. Well, she sort of made a small fuss over that, even asked me if I had entertainment money in my budget, but she ended up buying her other drinks. Nothing came of it afterwards, but I found that to be kind of odd.
I get so tired of that line "I've been hurt in the past". We all have. If you haven't resolved it, stop dating until you do.
What exactly is "taking it slow"? You were already having a physical relationship a couple of dates in, so the only slow thing I see is her communication with you in between those times.
The entertainment budget would've finished things off for me. I've never in my life had someone fund an expensive bar bill for me. I'm sorry to be pessimistic, but based on what you wrote, I don't feel very hopeful this is the right fit for you.
I don't think she's a lush. She is pretty entitled though. Going on a date and spending someone elses $100 on drinks isn't something I would do that's for sure.
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