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Question for the shy guys: When you really, really like a girl, will nothing stop you from telling her you like her? Or will your nerves get the better of you and you'll let the opportunity pass you by, even though it's a great loss?
If she shows interest enough I would for sure. I wouldn't of 5 years ago but I've gotten better. My girlfriend threw a lot of hints though. I'm pretty clueless when women are flirting with me, if a good looking woman stares at me I assume my fly is open or I have something stuck in my teeth. Haha
That's sad to me. Because not only does the guy never go after what he wants, the girl is left sitting there feeling undesirable because she assumes he'd go after her if he really wanted her.
It's a lose-lose.
So why doesn't the girl go after the guy? Then it's a win-win. Is she also shy? If so, then she should understand the situation.
Is it because it's considered emasculating? A man being shy doesn't make him any less of a man.
That's sad to me. Because not only does the guy never go after what he wants, the girl is left sitting there feeling undesirable because she assumes he'd go after her if he really wanted her.
It's a lose-lose.
It's also possible that he DOES go after what he wants, but he's just not that into you.
Or you may not be giving him enough signals. Men today are taught that persistence doesn't work (and rightfully so because it doesn't). So many men will interpret cool or lukewarm responses as a lack of interest and will move on.
That's sad to me. Because not only does the guy never go after what he wants, the girl is left sitting there feeling undesirable because she assumes he'd go after her if he really wanted her.
It's a lose-lose.
For the love of cards --
Unless she's shy too, what is it about her gender stopping her from forming a conversation?
99% of the time the shy guy will not make a move. Fear and procrastination usually keeps guys like this from having the things that they have always wanted.
Doesn't matter if the girl puts "it" right in their face.
The shy guy will not take action.
Lot of men out there have this problem.
If you are the woman and you really want the particular guy...just let him know you are interested and see where it goes.
Don't be disappointed if he doesn't reciprocate.
This is a good post, especially mentioning procrastination. The shy guys I know wait too long. Maybe they MIGHT have made a move, but by then, she's taken.
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Originally Posted by stava
That's sad to me. Because not only does the guy never go after what he wants, the girl is left sitting there feeling undesirable because she assumes he'd go after her if he really wanted her.
It's a lose-lose.
It is. But a) You know what they say about assumptions. b) My shy friends internalize this, and feel the exact same way (undesirable), which is generally what makes them shy to begin with. One could suggest that it's equally sad that a woman wouldn't make a move on a guy that she knows is shy, never going after what she wants because she expects the guy to.
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Originally Posted by JobZombie
It’s unrealistic to assume shy guys won’t act or be shy.
This this this this this. If it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck, why would you expect it to bark?
Question for the shy guys: When you really, really like a girl, will nothing stop you from telling her you like her? Or will your nerves get the better of you and you'll let the opportunity pass you by, even though it's a great loss?
I am beyond shy-- i am anti-social but if I really like a girl I would go over to talk to her but 9 times out of 10 she is shyer or more awkward and I can't lead her into a date. Anyway as shy as I am I reject 85% of women I come across because they are not attractive. 5% I ogle and won't approach because they are out of my league. 9% are approachable but I find will be too much trouble or high maintenance and not worth the trouble. The final 1% i do approach and 90% of that time I am rejected.
I am beyond shy-- i am anti-social but if I really like a girl I would go over to talk to her but 9 times out of 10 she is shyer or more awkward and I can't lead her into a date. Anyway as shy as I am I reject 85% of women I come across because they are not attractive. 5% I ogle and won't approach because they are out of my league. 9% are approachable but I find will be too much trouble or high maintenance and not worth the trouble. The final 1% i do approach and 90% of that time I am rejected.
So you do have a success rate. That's more than many other delibilitatingly shy men can have.
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