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Red flag
1. unstable family
2.drug abuse
3. drop out of school
4. he is in US
5. he did not defend you
6. you are ashamed of him
7. he damage things
8.No one support you guys
9. he has a criminal past
10.He lies
Date someone else in canada
thanks for the cliff notes version. The OP should have done it this way.
If you grew up with a mother who had that many DUIs, you've likely been exposed to a good amount of drama and poor choices.
It likely seems more reasonable to you than it would to someone who had a more stable parent.
Not a judgment. Doesn't mean your mother isn't a loving person or anything like that.
Might explain why you're not just walking away from this negative, dramatic situation. And why you got into it in the first place.
Very good point, which the OP will likely gloss over and ignore. I know NO ONE who has had 4 DUIs; I take that back. I know someone who has had 2 DUIs who is now in jail.
Its a very good point when growing up in that environment that its much easier to deal with drama as being normal, since it feels normal. Its up to each individual person to decide what they can live with. I dont know many people who could live with the little that I actually read.
Very good point, which the OP will likely gloss over and ignore. I know NO ONE who has had 4 DUIs; I take that back. I know someone who has had 2 DUIs who is now in jail.
Its a very good point when growing up in that environment that its much easier to deal with drama as being normal, since it feels normal. Its up to each individual person to decide what they can live with. I dont know many people who could live with the little that I actually read.
The OP did not gloss over, the OP addressed it. You are entitled to your opinion, and that's fine. I've said my piece on that.
Please, don't make judgments. My home life is fine. My mom has made mistakes, but that hasn't resulted in me being damaged or a sadist. I'm not attracted to drama either, so reserve the assumptions on things you cannot possibly weigh on.
I'm OLD - been around the block - experienced. I hope in 20 years you will look back at this and say "what was I thinking".
I'm OLD - been around the block - experienced. I hope in 20 years you will look back at this and say "what was I thinking".
And OP did say this:
"I had a lot of problems with my own parents"
I'm retired military. I doubt he can get in with all his past issues. I don't think they do the "join the military or go to jail" thing.
And now that I have read it again for clarification, I think this guy is telling tales about the aunt. He had issues in the bedroom - maybe he is confused about his sexuality and used this as an "excuse"? Maybe that is why all the angst in his life?
I'm retired military. I doubt he can get in with all his past issues. I don't think they do the "join the military or go to jail" thing.
And now that I have read it again for clarification, I think this guy is telling tales about the aunt. He had issues in the bedroom - maybe he is confused about his sexuality and used this as an "excuse"? Maybe that is why all the angst in his life?
To clarify the parent thing, I was talking about communication issues. I fought a lot with my parents, because I'm a teenager and that's what we do. But there were no emotional, deeply-scarring issues there.
Of course, that's a possibility. I don't think he is lying but nothing is impossible.
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