Am I right to be upset or should I just get over it?

[CSD610]

Originally Posted by Ashleyga

I'm not trying to say I'm perfect. Clearly, there's a reason why I was sucked into a very toxic relationship. I'm not oblivious. It's probably because I am damaged. Of course, those experiences affected me. I haven't denied that. I just don't believe they've made me a person prone to poor decision making, because generally speaking, I am not. Obviously, from this post, you don't see that. But I've made good decisions, most of my life.

But to clarify, the original comment was something along the lines of, "The OP mentioned her mom had 4 DUI's, imagine the home life." I protested, mainly because they couldn't really speak on my home life. I had a good home life. I wasn't verbally abused or had drinks thrown in my face. That was my only real qualm.

To the rest:

Thank you.

Did I say you are perfect?
Did I say anything about the DUI's that your Mother had?

No I did not, I am speaking about you only and one of these days you hopefully will completely comprehend and understand what I and many others here are telling you.

Good luck is all I can say.

[spencgr]

OP - There are over five pages of responses saying you should forget and walk away from this guy. Yet you continue to defend him and argue with people trying to give you advice.

YOU POSTED HERE FOR ADVICE. LISTEN TO IT.

Has a single person said, "yes, you are right. Go with your heart and stay with him forever. It will be so good for your life!" No, of course not; because it's horrible advice. The sooner you stop trying to rationalize your feelings, the sooner you can move on. It hurts; we get it. But wallowing in this pit is never going to be healthy.

HE IS NOT THE PERSON FOR YOU!!! PERIOD! MOVE ON!

[GiGi603]

Originally Posted by Ashleyga

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At first, I got along with his parents. I was the first girl they'd met and everything was okay. I could tell, right off the bat, that they didn't take me very seriously.

As a mother of three sons, I found this odd to read. Why would you expect them to take you seriously? Until the relationship has gone on for several months I am not going to take someone seriously. Sure I will be kind and mannerly.
And there have been times the Mother Radar goes up and I already know the girl is bad news. If a girl was barely 18 and already sleeping/living with my son....hmmm. Not going to get high grades in my book.

Then someone tells you a secret, you tell the secret to someone else who then tells the secret to someone else. You can't exactly be upset that someone told the secret that someone told you! It was not your story to tell.