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Ugly by who's standards? My own or that of others?
I only date people attractive to me - and whether or not they happen to be desirable to anyone else is irrelevant to me. While I am assured my current partners are quite high in demand and attractiveness - I find this could not be less relevant to me if I tried.
_I_ need to be attracted to every aspect of a person before I enter into that kind of relationship with them. Inside and out.
In my opinion, most people are average to ugly anyway. The ones that are attractive are the ones who know how to put themselves together and are thin, in shape, know how to dress, and know how to apply makeup. Those who don't have one or more of these things going for them are simply not attractive.
I learned this lesson in Italy. In general, most men consider Italian women the best looking. When I was over there, I must say I had to agree. But then I started looking closely at their faces and noticed that their basic faces were nothing special. It was their svelte figures and the pride they took in their appearance that made the Italian woman attractive.
You won't find a lot of American-style fatsos in Rome. In fact, it was quite a shock getting into the USAir plain back to the United States. The minute I walked into the plane, I thought I had just walked into an American Walmart.
So basically, thin + a sense of style = attractive.
Last edited by WheresTheBeef; 02-27-2015 at 10:38 AM..
IDK... I'm not sure a good/hot body wouldn't work for me. There is a woman in my office and she's got a pretty nice figure, but she takes your breath away she is so unattractive, I feel bad saying that cause she seems like a nice lady, but damn..... The first time I saw her I did a double take I was so surprised.........
You could have cut this post in half by just calling her a butterface.
IDK... I'm not sure a good/hot body wouldn't work for me. There is a woman in my office and she's got a pretty nice figure, but she takes your breath away she is so unattractive, I feel bad saying that cause she seems like a nice lady, but damn..... The first time I saw her I did a double take I was so surprised.........
I knew a lady like that when I was in college. Body of Athena, face of Medusa. Never seen such a distance between face and body.
What a nice pleasant well thought out articulated response.
While some people need to have an overall picture/presentation, there are certain times in a person's life, where a brief erotic encounter is needed. Sometimes, a person will pursue this type of encounter with someone who isn't necessarily their ideal partner. They may compromise their ideals, in order to fulfill their needs. It may be a person with less than ideal characteristics than they would typically go after. It may be personality, but typically they will compromise looks, in this case. Terms such as slumming it.....or double bagger...butter face etc... are terms typically used to describe these fleeting encounters. While double bagging could lead to asphyxiation, DS is preferred, and less likely to cause suffocation, unless burying one's face in the pillow is some kink of theirs. Better?
As much as I'd like to be PC and say I would, I probably wouldn't. It sounds good in theory, but you have to have a little attraction physically speaking. Luckily I don't think that there are really that many truly ugly people out there, most are average/attractive enough and you have the outliers on either end.
Many people say it's shallow to only pursue people to whom you are attracted, but to me, physical attraction is the main driving force between the sexes: the desire to procreate with someone you find sexually appealing seems a given. It seems unnatural to ignore physical beauty and pretend as if it's some outlying, unimportant factor when pursuing a potential mate.
You could have cut this post in half by just calling her a butterface.
I suppose, I was trying to not be offensive to others on the forum.
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Originally Posted by AnthonyJ34
Many people say it's shallow to only pursue people to whom you are attracted, but to me, physical attraction is the main driving force between the sexes: the desire to procreate with someone you find sexually appealing seems a given. It seems unnatural to ignore physical beauty and pretend as if it's some outlying, unimportant factor when pursuing a potential mate.
Yeah, I get that too.
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Originally Posted by vigueur2014
While some people need to have an overall picture/presentation, there are certain times in a person's life, where a brief erotic encounter is needed. Sometimes, a person will pursue this type of encounter with someone who isn't necessarily their ideal partner. They may compromise their ideals, in order to fulfill their needs. It may be a person with less than ideal characteristics than they would typically go after. It may be personality, but typically they will compromise looks, in this case. Terms such as slumming it.....or double bagger...butter face etc... are terms typically used to describe these fleeting encounters. While double bagging could lead to asphyxiation, DS is preferred, and less likely to cause suffocation, unless burying one's face in the pillow is some kink of theirs. Better?
I'm at work and can do limited searches online to research terms as I'm afraid the firewall will flag certain things.
I assumed that "DS" was a pejorative for oral sex.
If you knew a girl who was very nice, sweet, caring and had a great personality, but she is physically unnatractive. She is a an ugly woman.
Would you date this woman?
If I couldn't find anything to be attracted to about this woman, and yet she seemed to be very into me, I might give her a chance.
There's just too much for me to factor in to write a woman off just for what she looks like. I have found myself attracted to women whom I didn't really find attractive before.
I think we need to expand on the answer a little bit. No woman is truly ugly. Most women can look good if they take care of themselves. Usually if somebody is truly ugly and not taking care of themselves there is something deeper going on.
I mean if I don't shave or cut my hair people will think of me as weird as well.
Quoted for Agreement.
I just didn't feel like saying something to that effect.
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