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This is what I was thinking. Something is just not adding up here. If this guy is acting as you claim, OP, why would you accept an invitation for coffee from him? How is he able to "call meetings" with you? You haven't mentioned that he's your supervisor. The guy you're describing sounds like someone you would want to avoid whenever possible, but it doesn't seem like that's what you're doing.
It honestly sounds to me like you're feeding off of his attention, whether it's positive or negative. It's also interesting that you posted this in the Relationships forum rather than the Non-Romantic forum.
I have been assigned on a few projects that he is leading. So I am supposed to maintain a relationship with him as we have to work closely at times.
I posted it here because his reaction to me is as if we're in a relationship. Strong reactions from the very beginning, too intense for not knowing each other at all.
I posted it here because his reaction to me is as if we're in a relationship. Strong reactions from the very beginning, too intense for not knowing each other at all.
I posted it here because his reaction to me is as if we're in a relationship. Strong reactions from the very beginning, too intense for not knowing each other at all.
But HE didn't post this thread; you did. And YOU placed it in this particular forum, not he. So whatever his reaction is to you or what he thinks is not part of the equation. You'll have to forgive my cynicism, but I'm just not buying what you're selling here. As others have mentioned, if you honestly feel like you're being harassed, you could(at the very least) ignore him, or take action against him. I don't think you feel that way. I think you want and enjoy his attention.
But HE didn't post this thread; you did. And YOU placed it in this particular forum, not he. So whatever his reaction is to you or what he thinks is not part of the equation. You'll have to forgive my cynicism, but I'm just not buying what you're selling here. As others have mentioned, if you honestly feel like you're being harassed, you could(at the very least) ignore him, or take action against him. I don't think you feel that way. I think you want and enjoy his attention.
You can think whatever you want. I know what is true for me.
I just assumed she was feeding off the attention--she's obviously not a dumb female (going by her posts), so it's clear to me she enjoys the attention and playing the '??? Why is this happening?" confused role and getting others to engage is a way of prolonging the 'game'.
Of course I wouldn't expect you to agree nor care, OP, just keep doing what you do with those who allow you to do it.
He has stopped the sexual comments, but he is continuing with things like scheduling meetings and then not showing up for them. The meetings are never just me and him, there is always at least one other person involved, but he says he is going to be there and then just never shows.
When I confront him about it, he says things like "I just got caught up in my work" or "I meant to make it but something came up". But this happens nearly every time. I don't know if he does this to others.
I'm going to have to talk to his boss about his behavior. It is not normal.
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