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If he only reported those stupid accusations (which would make sense), that would explain why he didn't mention it to you; he figured it was between him and those women. Also, what they did constitutes harassment of him, which is definitely reportable. Pretty outrageous; they have a lot of nerve. Sounds like you're surrounded by low-lifes. I mean, really, who does that? Who goes up to an outside consultant and says a co-worker is spreading X-rated photos of him? That's not normal behavior. It's crazy. What a weird workplace.
Anyway, you two should tone down the flirting, just to keep the peace, and throw the gossipers off track. Be professional.
Okay that makes sense, I guess I misunderstood the angle HR was coming from but you have put it in prospective for me. I've always kept things professional, it is him who always comes to my area, seeing me and changing his direction to walk beside me. I like him so I don't mind it but I don't treat him any different than I do any other male that's there. Even the HR guy admitted that he can attest to the fact that I'm nice and friendly to everyone. The females are the ones who are blowing this waaaay out of proportion just because they don't want him interested in me, I will also include that he and I are from different races and I think that is the root of the issue.
True, it's just a flirtship at this point. And might not develop into anything more. It could just be he's being friendly to the OP because she's close to his age, or she appeals to him, or whatever, but when he leaves, he may go back to wherever he's from and/or whoever he's with.
Just saying, OP, it's best not to assume anything at this point. Don't get too excited or hopeful.
OP, I'm confused here as to what is actually going on to give any kind of advice.
From your post, you make a few statements that allude to that you actually have a relationship with this guy, beyond the work place. Are there pics? Are you having a physical relationship with him? I'm not being judgmental, but my hunch is something more is going on, than simple office gossip, for him to go to such lengths reporting this to HR.
Up to you to share or not, but if you have more details that would help.
If you are in a physical/emotional situation with him, then you both need to have a talk on how to proceed if you're on good terms. If not, then you need to cut him loose and start damage control to save your job.
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