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I've been dating this guy for almost 2 months and this is what he told me recently
"I feel I'm bugging you or annoying pressuring you to make a choicebut I can't if youwant relationship with me it will be exclusivei'm going to give you space to think about going public if a relationship something you won't because being on the sidelines or feeling like the guy on the side is not where I want to"
I do want is to become a couple but look what happened the last time - I dated this other guy last year and after 1 month I asked him to be a couple and he said no. So now it seems this new guy wants is to be a couple ASAP. I want is too but again I am feeling the pressure. So what does this guy mean and what should I do?
Different guys will want different things. Last guy didn't wanna be official, but this guy seems to. Not much of a cryptic message here. He is ready to be exclusive. The last guy you dated has nothing to do with this guy. No use trying to connect past partners. Different guy, different relationship.
Yeah, but some people say waiting for marriage to have sex is stupid. But that's what you want isn't it? So do what works for you. If you want to become official with this guy, then go ahead. Not like you're marrying him.
Some say sex on a 1st date is rushing, but it's not for some people. So you have to think about what you want. If this guy seems good enough for you to want to be exclusive, then don't worry what others say.
Now if you';re genuinely not ready, then let him know. But make sure it's your choice and what you want.
I believe, this guy thinks by being a couple he's going to be getting some (probably tired of waiting after two months). He's in for something as exciting as watching a Redwood tree grow, Lol.
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I've been dating this guy for almost 2 months and this is what he told me recently
"I feel I'm bugging you or annoying pressuring you to make a choicebut I can't if youwant relationship with me it will be exclusivei'm going to give you space to think about going public if a relationship something you won't because being on the sidelines or feeling like the guy on the side is not where I want to"
I do want is to become a couple but look what happened the last time - I dated this other guy last year and after 1 month I asked him to be a couple and he said no. So now it seems this new guy wants is to be a couple ASAP. I want is too but again I am feeling the pressure. So what does this guy mean and what should I do?
He is what you are looking for. Last time you initiated the exclusivity, and were turned down. This time its his turn to get turned down??
Be aware that the exclusivity could turn out to be one sided, either one of you could not live up to the terms of your agreement, but if you want to accept the offer - then do. Best wishes!
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