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i've been hanging out with this girl and i have no idea what we are. sometimes it feels like we are a couple, other times it doesn't
we've had a talk but we decided to just be friends and take it slow and see what happens
well we both went out saturday and got drunk. sunday morning i was cranky, tired and moody and asked what we were. she said "well we really arent dating" i asked why not and she said she just wasnt looking for that right now.
i do like the girl so i start of got agitated and asked "is there someone one else?" "how many other guys you seeing"
i know i was wrong to say that i was just cranky
she didnt act upset and everything seemed fine she just said she was worried i would end up getting hurt but i told her not to worry
things havent seemed to change but im afraid i took it to far
should i bring it back up or wait to see if she does?
I would quit seeing her...Because if you are having sex, you are in a relationship....and she obviously is too mixed up to have one.
You will only get more hurt....Don't let her use you as her "Mr. right now" You deserve better. You are probably already missing opportunities because others think you two are a couple too....Do the single thing til you find the right one.
Avoid. It's over, she probably figured it was the hangover talking. The more important question is, are you ok with being with someone who doesn't want to be dating, and doesn't want to be in a couple?
Kinda wacked, if you ask me. You don't sound to happy with it.
... she just said she was worried i would end up getting hurt but i told her not to worry
Honestly, it sounds like you are already a little hurt about it.
I don't necessarily think you went too far. She doesn't sound like she cares very much about your feelings. I would spend less time with her because of that.
You made the exact wrong move dude. What the hell were you thinking with the "what are we" question the day after? You NEVER EVER do that. You would have been better in all honesty, in just getting the f out of there right after and then not calling her for a few days. Mark my words, like clockwork in a few days she will call you going "why didnt you call I thought things were good!" LOL this is what you do if you actually like a girl, not your approach. Its gone now
So I will say this. You can still salvage things but you gotta be an absolute a-hole now. If she calls you again even sporadically you be like "what? Who is this? Oh hey I totally forgot about you" and then tell her about some other chick that you think is hot right now. Dont make the conversation too long, hang up and never sound too interested in any call. Thats the best play for you. You gotta make it seem like your too cool for school and you dont even REMEMBER that day when you asked her what you guys were etc. Like it was so unimportant and now youre on to your next conquest. That approach will work.
What, you forgot your login info in the 30 minutes since you started this thread???
Ha!
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