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You must be somewhat attracted to that trait. My advice might be a bit simpler - just don't go out with them. It is quite easy to tell an egoist from the very first conversation.
I was engaged to someone with a huge ego. Actually, it turned out that he wanted everyone to think he was great. In reality, he lied about his age, background, and other things. He was very insecure, which is the case with many of these people (men and women) who have the need to go around and brag about themselves.
I wouldn't waste my time trying to "put someone in their place". Why? What would it solve? You are certainly not going to change that person's behavior. I would just dismiss myself as soon as possible from their presence and move on. That is what I try and do when I encounter anyone who is like that. Life's short, don't waste my time.
Know-it-all guys don't like me, because I throw it back at them.
This is what I need in my life. Honestly, I don't want to be the know it all guy. I would like a woman who can dish it back at me. I've never been really attracted to a woman who wasn't much of a go getter. I really enjoy that dynamic in a potential relationship.
I'm going to break this to you gently: it takes a certain level of arrogance to look at another human being as a "fixer-upper". If you are attracting arrogant men, it could be because they are sensing something in common with you.
I'm going to break this to you gently: it takes a certain level of arrogance to look at another human being as a "fixer-upper".
I disagree. I have used this term to refer privately to some of the guys I dated in the past. It isn't intended to be pejorative; rather, it was a way for me to look at what I was doing wrong: dating men who didn't have their act together and were unable to be the equal partner I was seeking. It was when I realized this trend in myself (an attraction to guys who seemed to need my help and would take, take, take but do very little giving) that I was able to find an appropriate partner.
OP, I think you are asking the wrong question. Rather than ask "how do I stop attracting arrogant men?" you should be asking "Why do I allow arrogant men into my life?"
I disagree. I have used this term to refer privately to some of the guys I dated in the past. It isn't intended to be pejorative; rather, it was a way for me to look at what I was doing wrong: dating men who didn't have their act together and were unable to be the equal partner I was seeking. It was when I realized this trend in myself (an attraction to guys who seemed to need my help and would take, take, take but do very little giving) that I was able to find an appropriate partner.
OP, I think you are asking the wrong question. Rather than ask "how do I stop attracting arrogant men?" you should be asking "Why do I allow arrogant men into my life?"
+1. Or maybe another phrase for that is someone who's manipulative and mistakes kindness for weakness.
There is a tendency for narcissists to want to date people they perceive as co-depedents for a reason.
You'll often see these pairings IRL.
It's not like a narcissist will attract another narcissist, because they tend to thrive on using someone else for their own personal gain.
And, lets face it, some people are pretty nasty and will see someone who is kind and take advantage. What more can a self-ego stroker ask for?
Let's clarify something: when you say you attract arrogant men, is it that they just hit on you? Because if that's as far as it goes, just shut them down, and keep it moving. You say you're attractive, so it makes sense that you attract those type of dudes. They feel entitled to pretty girls. Not much you can do about that, short of changing your looks and personality.
Now, if you go ahead and start dating them, then you need to recognize them for who they are earlier on and, again, shut them down from jump street.
Sounds like you're in a pretty intense environment. Is it pretty prestigious? As in, people with money and 'breeding'? Because there tends to be a lot more guys like that in that sort of environment.
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In most cases, it's the person seeking 'fixer upper's' that needs repair.
