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Besides your clunky wording...I am going to assume you meant married to you...not that you are now playing doxy to married men.....though it fits with your money as the only motive for marriage view.
However I don't have sex with my husband only because I am married to him and he has a job. I have sex with him because I love and adore him....not his paycheck.
Perhaps you are confusing "pay-up" vs attraction. Most people will marry someone they're attracted to hence they're married to that particular person. You're getting negative replies because being intimate with someone for "being a breadwinner", even though you're not attracted to that person... may come off as you're with that person solely for material things he can provide.Most people will not have sex with someone they don't find appealing, I know I wouldn't.
I think your comment above were a bit confusing; I highlighted why you're getting perplexed reactions. It's possible for people to marry for money, however it is highly ostracized in our society. I understand it's fun being with someone we respect, however intimacy is even more enjoyable when it is with someone we have mutual attraction with.
Attraction can grow,just like it can go away.
How many threads on here do we have of men not attracted to their wives anymore?
As you see your husband taking care of business,you will grow to love him.
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Attention all guys. Please take a minute to read what was stated above, followed by a moment of time to actually absorb and process what it really means.
Then, if for some reason, you just don't get it, then you never will.
You have two choices. Either buy a ring, put it on the finger of your special cupcake, put your own chains on, submit willingly to clitoral financial enslavement and sacrifice your dreams and aspirations so that she 'grows to love you.'
Or reclaim your right to your own existence and destiny. A sovereign being, a self actualized entity and master of your own fate.
I work with a large amount of nurses from 3rd world countries,and what do you know,they taught me that marriage is not for love,but its really a business partnership.
Think about this....why do people in other countries have marriages that last decades,but over 50% of American's divorce because of $$$ issues?
If i get married,i have to look at it as a business arrangement.
No matter how much i love a man(which i doubt will EVER happen) he has to be able to keep the marriage afloat financially,but so do i,and we have to do that together.
On nurse said that if 2 men approach you,and one has better finances,but you do not Love him,marry him instead of the guy you do love,because she said there is no such thing as love at first sight. That is infactuation.
She said that only happens in Disney movies.
love grows.
As you see your husband taking care of business,you will grow to love him.
Marriage is supposed to be 2 people bringing their resources together to create one household.
I get their point,but i am not convinced all the way.
I am going to try to look at potential partners from a business perspective.
I agree with whole heartledly what you are saying. It is a business partnership, one that most people don't get in the U.S. And the reason for a high rate of divorce. Today it is a two income household needed to survive in this economy. When one person marries for love, but not understand the financial part of a marriage. Then it becomes a struggle in a marriage. For instance if one partner is bringing nothing to the table and the other partner or spouse feels they should be taken care of exclusively on one income. Then that's problem i.e. man or women. Of course that is just one aspect of marriage.
I work with a large amount of nurses from 3rd world countries,and what do you know,they taught me that marriage is not for love,but its really a business partnership.
Think about this....why do people in other countries have marriages that last decades,but over 50% of American's divorce because of $$$ issues?
If i get married,i have to look at it as a business arrangement.
No matter how much i love a man(which i doubt will EVER happen) he has to be able to keep the marriage afloat financially,but so do i,and we have to do that together.
On nurse said that if 2 men approach you,and one has better finances,but you do not Love him,marry him instead of the guy you do love,because she said there is no such thing as love at first sight. That is infactuation.
She said that only happens in Disney movies.
love grows.
As you see your husband taking care of business,you will grow to love him.
Marriage is supposed to be 2 people bringing their resources together to create one household.
I get their point,but i am not convinced all the way.
I am going to try to look at potential partners from a business perspective.
These women sound sensible. You should listen to them.
I agree with whole heartledly what you are saying. It is a business partnership, one that most people don't get in the U.S. And the reason for a high rate of divorce. Today it is a two income household needed to survive in this economy. When one person marries for love, but not understand the financial part of a marriage. Then it becomes a struggle in a marriage. For instance if one partner is bringing nothing to the table and the other partner or spouse feels they should be taken care of exclusively on one income. Then that's problem i.e. man or women. Of course that is just one aspect of marriage.
I know many people think like i do.
Wonder how many of the "marriage is for love" crowd would marry a homeless person?
I agree with whole heartledly what you are saying. It is a business partnership, one that most people don't get in the U.S. And the reason for a high rate of divorce. Today it is a two income household needed to survive in this economy. When one person marries for love, but not understand the financial part of a marriage. Then it becomes a struggle in a marriage. For instance if one partner is bringing nothing to the table and the other partner or spouse feels they should be taken care of exclusively on one income. Then that's problem i.e. man or women. Of course that is just one aspect of marriage.
Exactly! This is one of the truest posts I've ever read on this site. I've run into this exact same thing in some relationships - i.e., women who brought 0 financially to the table, and wanted to get married to me because they expected me to bust my a$$ to take care of them. Forget that....
Wonder how many of the "marriage is for love" crowd would marry a homeless person?
Marrying for love doesn't mean picking some person off the street and falling in love with them. In my opinion, you should only marry someone that you are in love with AND who you are on the same page with lifestyle wise and financially, among other things. This doesn't mean that love is the ONLY thing that matters. It means that love is a prerequisite for everything else.
Marrying for love doesn't mean picking some person off the street and falling in love with them. In my opinion, you should only marry someone that you are in love with AND who you are on the same page with lifestyle wise and financially, among other things. This doesn't mean that love is the ONLY thing that matters. It means that love is a prerequisite for everything else.
As a percentage, how much does being "on the same page lifestyle wise and financially" count for you? Just curious.
As a percentage, how much does being "on the same page lifestyle wise and financially" count for you? Just curious.
I don't see these things as percentages. A person is more than the sum of his parts. Everything is important. A relationship between a partier and a homebody or between an extreme saver and an extreme saver are going to be difficult. It's not about percentages.
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