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I still want to know why you weren't already involved in a relationship with this guy OP. Or did you really have no interest in dating him, you just liked the attention he gave you? And now perhaps you feel like he is not going to give you that attention anymore. Now that he is hot and whatnot.
Gotta say no. If a man who was not bad-looking and became even better looking was interested in me, I'd be happy and flattered. Unless I went out with them, and their personality sucked, or we just weren't a match-personality-wise.
It's true some hot people can be jerks and cheaters, since they have tons of options. But then again, less than great-looking people can be as well. It's mainly about character, and how one sees themselves.
Someone can be hot, and while they have tons of options, they are perfectly capable of being faithful since they already have something good, and there's no need to keep shopping. And they wouldn't want to cheat and risk messing up something good already.
Then you may have someone who is far from attractive be a cheater, simply because they can and want to.
Again, all about character, regardless of looks. Some people are just selfish. Some need validation. Some just wanna have fun, and some are trustworthy. etc The list goes on.
Last edited by HappyRain; 07-11-2015 at 09:04 AM..
To answer your question: I can't say I've ever lost interest in a woman because she got more attractive. My...penis doesn't work that way, and I'm gonna go way out on a limb and say the same is true for most men.
As far as your situation, it sounds like you're turned off because you think he has options now. When you lose weight, it can affect how people see you, in good and bad ways. I think when people decide to lose weight and get healthy, with that comes an overall change in mood and demeanor, because they start to feel good about themselves.
I will say, with guys, they usually don't become womanizing jerks because they drop a few pounds. It's usually either in them or it's not. If he was a sweet guy with a crush, he's probably still the same dude. So, I wouldn't worry that he's "changed" because he's gotten better looking.
Although I thought he looked good and better, I liked the way he was. He wasn't too good looking, but now I think he may be too good looking and it made me like him less. Probably because now he can easily have any girl he wants and because the exes I knew who were good looking ended up to be real jerks; they KNEW they were good looking so they always had a wandering eye and soon showed little respect towards me and always thought they could do better. Also, the better looking ones had the worst personalities.
Even Joe Manganiello's hot fiance, Sofia Vergara, thought Joe was too handsome and she had her doubts about him. Considering that she is pretty hot herself, I totally understood where she was coming from about being with such a handsome man.
Never has happened to me but I wouldn't lose interest.
However I do want to add in how so different men and women are. If a guy became incredibly better looking, yes the odds he would cheat or fool around are much greater than if a woman becomes better looking. Men are more wired for casual sex and would exploit their new fortune. Women on the other hand do not care as much because usually they care less about sex or are much more selective.
The odds of handsome men cheating are much higher than average joes.
I've only seen this play out on that TLC show my 600-lb life. But I could see how this could happen in real life; with insecurity being at the center of it.
I sometimes wonder why some women don't feel contended when they are lucky to be in a relationship with a guy who is handsome and a nice person at heart. Is level of looks such an overpowering factor ?
Last edited by Adi from the Brunswicks; 07-11-2015 at 05:14 PM..
Never has happened to me but I wouldn't lose interest.
However I do want to add in how so different men and women are. If a guy became incredibly better looking, yes the odds he would cheat or fool around are much greater than if a woman becomes better looking. Men are more wired for casual sex and would exploit their new fortune. Women on the other hand do not care as much because usually they care less about sex or are much more selective.
The odds of handsome men cheating are much higher than average joes.
Do you realize that you just admitted men are pigs? The smarter men on this board should be offended by that.
Cheating has nothing to do with gender and everything to do with lack of character.
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