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Some days this forum is enough to give you a headache, with all the overthinking and overanalyzing going on. Spotted this in my FB feed, and it really spoke to the simplicity of relationships. They don't have to be as hard as some are making them, or imagining them to be. Being thoughtful is inexpensive and effortless.
There wasn't one in my FB feed for guys, it would probably say food and sex , but honestly, my husband and I do these types of things for each other. It really is the little things that can mean the most.
Some days this forum is enough to give you a headache, with all the overthinking and overanalyzing going on. Spotted this in my FB feed, and it really spoke to the simplicity of relationships. They don't have to be as hard as some are making them, or imagining them to be. Being thoughtful is inexpensive and effortless.
There wasn't one in my FB feed for guys, it would probably say food and sex , but honestly, my husband and I do these types of things for each other. It really is the little things that can mean the most.
People are not honest with one another. I tell people how I tell how I feel. They might hate for it but that is their problem.
Some days this forum is enough to give you a headache, with all the overthinking and overanalyzing going on. Spotted this in my FB feed, and it really spoke to the simplicity of relationships. They don't have to be as hard as some are making them, or imagining them to be. Being thoughtful is inexpensive and effortless.
There wasn't one in my FB feed for guys, it would probably say food and sex , but honestly, my husband and I do these types of things for each other. It really is the little things that can mean the most.
I will agree with you to a point, but in the examples given it is all "stuff" - even if it's inexpensive stuff. Flowers and a candy bar are great, and even a handwritten note, but I would vastly prefer a long, spontaneous hug, cuddling on the couch, a walk through the park holding hands, or even a gesture like doing the dishes or putting away the groceries, etc. Some women - I won't say all women - don't necessarily need any stuff at all to know our partner is thinking about us - it can be shown with words and actions as well. But no, it doesn't have to be as complicated as people make it out to be.
some days this forum is enough to give you a headache, with all the overthinking and overanalyzing going on. Spotted this in my fb feed, and it really spoke to the simplicity of relationships. They don't have to be as hard as some are making them, or imagining them to be. Being thoughtful is inexpensive and effortless.
There wasn't one in my fb feed for guys, it would probably say food and sex :d, but honestly, my husband and i do these types of things for each other. It really is the little things that can mean the most.
I will agree with you to a point, but in the examples given it is all "stuff" - even if it's inexpensive stuff. Flowers and a candy bar are great, and even a handwritten note, but I would vastly prefer a long, spontaneous hug, cuddling on the couch, a walk through the park holding hands, or even a gesture like doing the dishes or putting away the groceries, etc. Some women - I won't say all women - don't necessarily need any stuff at all to know our partner is thinking about us - it can be shown with words and actions as well. But no, it doesn't have to be as complicated as people make it out to be.
And to add, some women are spoiled and materialistic that they do want, and feel entitled to stuff, and lots of it. All women are different. So, the men need to know what kind of woman they have, and if they're still dating, go for less high-maintenance ones who seem to want Sugar Daddies, rather than a SO.
But I think the above is true. I wouldn't even need flowers, as I am not a flower person. But otherwise, sure. I am not too hard to please either. I don't need showering with gifts. It may be nice, but it's not needed or expected. More simple gestures seem the sweeter ones.
Last edited by HappyRain; 07-25-2015 at 07:40 PM..
People are not honest with one another. I tell people how I tell how I feel. They might hate for it but that is their problem.
While it's not my problem nor issue at my stage of life..I just got off phone with a very close f-friend talking about this very thing...Thats the problem where folks want instant commitment ..then if move to next step..want to be able to trust...and It's the Trust that so many have issues with..While anyone wants to promote with the words.. in reality it's only time will prove or disprove whatever one is looking for.
Both male or female want instant gratifications...and I;m talking about sex either..I'm talking about being validated..appreciated and trustworthy...the other is a personal decision depending on a huge host of personal rules of engagement. Much has changed in the past 50 years!! and because of instant messaging, testings, mobile phone access..so many expect instant responses to their expectations..which back in the day always took days or weeks to run it's course..
BYW text/ tweet or IM does NOT always equate attention.. Face to face communications beats all that ...Can't hide those tells...
I love it when my husband calls just to check in with me to see how my day is going. I love it when my husband brings me home a cookie or a piece of cheesecake. I love it when he tells me he wants to cuddle with me on the sofa.
While it's not my problem nor issue at my stage of life..I just off with a very close friend talking about this very thing...The be problem is folks want instant commitment ..then if move to next step..want to be able to trust...and It's the Trust that so many have issues with..While anyone wants to beige the words..only time will prove or disprove whatever one is looking for.
Both male or female want instant gratifications...and I;m talking about sex either..I'm talking about being validated..appreciated and trustworthy...the other is a personal decision depending on a huge host of personal rules of engagement. Much has changed in the past 50 years!! and because of instant messaging, testings, mobile phone access..so many expect instant responses to their expectations..which back in the day always took days or weeks to run it's course..
BYW text/ tweet or IM does NOT always equate attention.. Face to face communications beats all that ...Can't hide those tells...
I don't like the whole friends first either.Usually it means he looking for a hook up.
Some days this forum is enough to give you a headache, with all the overthinking and overanalyzing going on. Spotted this in my FB feed, and it really spoke to the simplicity of relationships. They don't have to be as hard as some are making them, or imagining them to be. Being thoughtful is inexpensive and effortless.
There wasn't one in my FB feed for guys, it would probably say food and sex , but honestly, my husband and I do these types of things for each other. It really is the little things that can mean the most.
I sort of agree but not exactly because I don't like flowers overall, I don't like surprises and I don't eat chocolate.
Mr. CSD does so many things many other men do not do so I know everyday how much he loves and cares for me and our relationship has never been complicated.
I sort of agree but not exactly because I don't like flowers overall, I don't like surprises and I don't eat chocolate.
Mr. CSD does so many things many other men do not do so I know everyday how much he loves and cares for me and our relationship has never been complicated.
I don't think the point was supposed to be that specific. I think it was basically that it's the thought behind the gesture that makes us feel good and not the price or size of the gesture itself.
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, but honestly, my husband and I do these types of things for each other. It really is the little things that can mean the most.
