Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
Location: East St. Paul 651 forever (or North St. Paul) .
2,860 posts, read 3,387,686 times
Reputation: 1446
Advertisements
I'm getting lonely...and I am not about to kick out some money for online "dating". Are there any free alternatives to Christian Mangle...I mean, Mingle? That place is an utter scam, in so many ways.
Christian Cafe seems okay (at least you get a free trial), but the traffic there seems limited, and the price of that place is just as bad as CM.
So what's the deal? OKCupid is okay, and so is POF - are there any other options besides those that get heavy traffic?
Money/Payment is the first line of "filtering" for online social services.... If it is free don't expect the members to be serious about anything.
In the luxury living world, some memberships/services are extremely high priced for no other reason than to attract a certain level of clientèle.
There are others who say differently, but I've found the same to be true. I found a different type of clientele on paid sites (they seemed more serious about a long-term relationship and less "hook-up" minded).
OP, I found Match to be good, it's probably my favorite. I may be biased because I met someone using Match and am still dating (going on three months, so it's new, but definitely not short term). I never tried PoF, I did try OKC but found mostly fetish-minded people, those looking for a hook-up, and those in open relationships. I also tried Eharmony and that seemed like a big time and money sink. They limit you to a handful of matches they assign you and 9 times out of 10 they matched me with people I wasn't interested in. Some days I'd be matched with nothing but unused/dead profiles.
Ive never been a member of any paid site, so my experience is limited to free OLD sites, but what you guys maybe missing is that there are some people who will sign up to free sites just to see what its all about, who may be quality people themselves and are nowhere near as desperate to rely on OLD for dates, since they may very well be RL dating. In fact, I found that the most successful use of OLD of any type, is to use it to complement RL dating, not to solely rely on it
Ive never been a member of any paid site, so my experience is limited to free OLD sites, but what you guys maybe missing is that there are some people who will sign up to free sites just to see what its all about, who may be quality people themselves and are nowhere near as desperate to rely on OLD for dates, since they may very well be RL dating. In fact, I found that the most successful use of OLD of any type, is to use it to complement RL dating, not to solely rely on it
At the risk of taking the thread a bit off topic, I do agree with you here.
Too many folks hit OLD thinking it is going to be the cure that ails their dating ills. Although I ultimately had success through OLD, defined as finding a woman who became my best friend, and forming a lasting relationship with, it was neither quick or easy. It also wasn't done in place of exploring other avenues.
I think OLD can be a great tool as a compliment to many other ways of meeting other people and procuring dates. As a stand alone, it is more likely to make the user depressed and give up due to the volume of rejections and/or non replies one can get from those uninterested, profiles no longer followed, fake profiles, etc. OLD is very much still a needle in a haystack method in many ways.
Location: East St. Paul 651 forever (or North St. Paul) .
2,860 posts, read 3,387,686 times
Reputation: 1446
Quote:
Originally Posted by D217
Try going to church.
This is actually my strategy, but lately my job/hours are just chaos so I have not been able to get to a good church. Furthermore, it can be a little hard to find a church with young to middle-aged adults (women).
But no doubt that's the best place (outside of college, which I've been out of for the last five years).
Quote:
Originally Posted by Checkered24
At the risk of taking the thread a bit off topic, I do agree with you here.
Too many folks hit OLD thinking it is going to be the cure that ails their dating ills. Although I ultimately had success through OLD, defined as finding a woman who became my best friend, and forming a lasting relationship with, it was neither quick or easy. It also wasn't done in place of exploring other avenues.
I think OLD can be a great tool as a compliment to many other ways of meeting other people and procuring dates. As a stand alone, it is more likely to make the user depressed and give up due to the volume of rejections and/or non replies one can get from those uninterested, profiles no longer followed, fake profiles, etc. OLD is very much still a needle in a haystack method in many ways.
Needle in a haystack indeed is what I'm beginning to believe the whole thing is.
Honestly...maybe 1 in a 100 girls that I search are stunning, at least beautiful in the sense that I want that to be the last woman I'm ever going to be with for the rest of my life. Maybe 5 out of 100 will I click on their profile (in other words, find them at least moderately attractive).
I'm just spit balling, but I'd venture that's close to it. I have to scan page after page after page on POF and OKCupid to see a looker - there are tons of large (obese or overweight) and unattractive women on these sites. It's sad.
I'm just spit balling, but I'd venture that's close to it. I have to scan page after page after page on POF and OKCupid to see a looker - there are tons of large (obese or overweight) and unattractive women on these sites. It's sad.
Blame McD and Burger King for that! I got one match from a woman on POF, she has to be close to 180 kgs easy!
Please register to post and access all features of our very popular forum. It is free and quick. Over $68,000 in prizes has already been given out to active posters on our forum. Additional giveaways are planned.
Detailed information about all U.S. cities, counties, and zip codes on our site: City-data.com.
Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
