sketchy or no? (dating, men, calling, friend)

[cindersslipper]

I have a new relationship and here's how its gone -

I've known him for ages, he's liked me for ages. Asked me to be his date to a party he threw, I went, it went well, and so on.

I'm over there quite a lot but he's never been to mine.

This last weekend, I had an AWFUL day at the lawyers on the Friday.

I wanted to have some fun somehow, assumed he'd call.

He did call, after midnight on Saturday am, which of course I didn't get as I was asleep.

I woke up with the flu on Saturday, saw the missed call, sms him "you called?" got no response.

I find out from a friend he was out at the club on the Friday night. Where I'd wanted to go.

No call Saturday then Sunday I got "going to stay home today, big week at work"

I replied, ive been sick w flu all weekend, thanks for asking.

Then I get, ive got Tuesday off, are you well enough to come over?

I replied (juvenile I know), why, didn't you find anyone better in the weekend?

Now he's all >>>>why did I get a message like that??? so im apparently the Bad Guy.

Thoughts?

[fleetiebelle]

I wanted to have some fun somehow, assumed he'd call.

There's your problem. If you wanted to go out on Friday, you should have asked him to go out. He might have been assuming that you'd call him, and you can't blame him for not being a mind reader.

[cindersslipper]

Originally Posted by fleetiebelle

There's your problem. If you wanted to go out on Friday, you should have asked him to go out. He might have been assuming that you'd call him, and you can't blame him for not being a mind reader.

fair enough, but no call on the Saturday?

What the...?

[cindersslipper]

Also may I add that this has happened before and The Last Time it happened I called over unexpectedly and found a bunch of tramps passed out on his sofa and in his house.

Awkward.

[CarbonCountyLiving]

Why are you with this dude? It sounds like drama waiting to happen if he has "tramps" passed out on his sofa.

Unless you mean a bunch of people dressed like Charlie Chaplin, which would be hilarious.

[cindersslipper]

Lol they just about were.

He lives in a part of town where everyone knows everyone, etc.

After the tramp incident he put a lock on his gate.

So he does the right things, then turns around and ....? I dunno....?

Ignores me?

I better add that he's a big drinker. Not an alchy but definitely a big drinker.

[weezerfan84]

You can do what you want to do. He could be a decently nice guy, but is he the right guy for you? Is he making the kind of decisions you would expect from someone who has similar viewpoints as your own? Do you and him have each other's best interest at heart? Even though you have only been dating each other a short time, these are things to look for in a person. Sometimes the person can be genuine, but just hasn't met the right person to show it. If you're questioning this much stuff now, you'll likely always be questioning.

[cindersslipper]

Yeah, I know.

Im just annoyed that I let him get in, I suppose.

dropped my guard etc.

Another thing, this sounds STUPID, but after the first party, he's never FED me.

I go over, get drinks etc, but not food even though I get hungry.

No food, no phonecall = NO FUN FOR YOU.

[weezerfan84]

Originally Posted by cindersslipper

Yeah, I know.

Im just annoyed that I let him get in, I suppose.

dropped my guard etc.

Another thing, this sounds STUPID, but after the first party, he's never FED me.

I go over, get drinks etc, but not food even though I get hungry.

No food, no phonecall = NO FUN FOR YOU.

Then you have to question why YOU continue to see him? Are you needing the self esteem boost? Are you bored? Are you lonely? Only you can answer these questions. As humans we can let people treat us poorly, because we don't think that we'll meet anyone better.

[veuvegirl]

Men aren't mind readers. It sounds as if he isn't as serious as you are. Stop being a baby about him not calling or asking you how you feel, no one wants to deal with that.