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They were dating a month! There is NOTHING NOTHING NOTHING goodtime girl about that!!
They were not in a committed relationship though. Men can date women for months and still kick her out his place like yesterdays trash. There is not a timetable when "dating" and people need to understand that especially women. Until he specifically ask you to be his girlfriend and offers you a committed relationship, you could very well be a goodtime girl/FWB/etc. A man feels no obligation to your feelings when you have not given him any standards to adhere too.
It's no different than the girl who's been sleeping with a guy for months but wonders why he has yet agreed to a committed relationship. She is a goodtime girl, one who is good enough to have sex with but not girlfriend material to him. Some women need to stop trying to use sex as a barging tool try and make a guy want a relationship. It doesn't matter how long you've been hanging out, if the guy is only after sex that's all he's going to offer. When a woman gives a man sex without commitment she is left to deal with the aftermath whatever it may be but it usually doesn't go in her favor.
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They were not in a committed relationship though. Men can date women for months and still kick her out his place like yesterdays trash. There is not a timetable when "dating" and people need to understand that especially women. Until he specifically ask you to be his girlfriend and offers you a committed relationship, you could very well be a goodtime girl/FWB/etc. A man feels no obligation to your feelings when you have not given him any standards to adhere too.
It's no different than the girl who's been sleeping with a guy for months but wonders why he has yet agreed to a committed relationship. She is a goodtime girl, one who is good enough to have sex with but not girlfriend material to him. Some women need to stop trying to use sex as a barging tool try and make a guy want a relationship. It doesn't matter how long you've been hanging out, if the guy is only after sex that's all he's going to offer. When a woman gives a man sex without commitment she is left to deal with the aftermath whatever it may be but it usually doesn't go in her favor.
Case in point.
Of course they weren't in a committed relationship, they hadn't had sex yet! I don't know any women or any men that are going to commit to someone until they know they are sexually compatible. That would be asinine. Most people aren't that dumb.
And you're thinking is so antiquated it isn't funny. And you're especially hilarious that you think it is is just guys that go after sex. I've found the opposite, its women that want to keep things casual, especially later in life. Women are just as capable of giving the boot to a dude, as vice versa. Happens all the time. It's part of the dating landscape.
But a commitment wouldn't have changed anything here.
They were not in a committed relationship though. Men can date women for months and still kick her out his place like yesterdays trash. There is not a timetable when "dating" and people need to understand that especially women. Until he specifically ask you to be his girlfriend and offers you a committed relationship, you could very well be a goodtime girl/FWB/etc. A man feels no obligation to your feelings when you have not given him any standards to adhere too.
It's no different than the girl who's been sleeping with a guy for months but wonders why he has yet agreed to a committed relationship. She is a goodtime girl, one who is good enough to have sex with but not girlfriend material to him. Some women need to stop trying to use sex as a barging tool try and make a guy want a relationship. It doesn't matter how long you've been hanging out, if the guy is only after sex that's all he's going to offer. When a woman gives a man sex without commitment she is left to deal with the aftermath whatever it may be but it usually doesn't go in her favor.
Case in point.
But you seem to be suggesting that women should withhold sex as a bargaining tool in order to make a guy want a relationship.
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But you seem to be suggesting that women should withhold sex as a bargaining tool in order to make a guy want a relationship.
I wonder if she thinks men should withhold sex until they get a commitment too, as there are loads of women out there that just want to get some and not commit to a relationship. I meet them every month. Really, every other OLD is more like it.
I wonder if she thinks men should withhold sex until they get a commitment too, as there are loads of women out there that just want to get some and not commit to a relationship. I meet them every month. Really, every other OLD is more like it.
Of course they weren't in a committed relationship, they hadn't had sex yet! I don't know any women or any men that are going to commit to someone until they know they are sexually compatible. That would be asinine. Most people aren't that dumb.
And you're thinking is so antiquated it isn't funny. And you're especially hilarious that you think it is is just guys that go after sex. I've found the opposite, its women that want to keep things casual, especially later in life. Women are just as capable of giving the boot to a dude, as vice versa. Happens all the time. It's part of the dating landscape.
But a commitment wouldn't have changed anything here.
Are you serious??? No wonder there are so many women getting their feelings hurt because SEX DOES NOT EQUAL COMMITTMENT NOR DOES IT MAKE ONE OWED TO YOU!
Yes a commitment would have made a huge difference as he wouldn't have kicked the OP out like yesterday's trash but would have let her stay and spend the night. A man is not going to kick his girlfriend out his place in the wee hours of the morning right after having sex.
Who cares about who wants to keep things casual as that is not the case for the OP. She wanted a relationship with this guy and he wanted sex and nothing more. Sex was not and did not make him want a relationship with the OP, it ended up being quite the opposite.
But you seem to be suggesting that women should withhold sex as a bargaining tool in order to make a guy want a relationship.
No I'm stating that a woman who wants a relationship needs to be clear the guy she is seeing is on the same page and to not try to move things further unless you know where you stand.
I wonder if she thinks men should withhold sex until they get a commitment too, as there are loads of women out there that just want to get some and not commit to a relationship. I meet them every month. Really, every other OLD is more like it.
If he doesn't want to be used as a tool then stating he wants a relationship would be a good thing. Men can get their feelings hurt and be used for sex just like woman can. It's not gender exclusive.
Look, OP, I think most of us have said this in one way or another:
The man was not interested in going any further with you. Had he been interested, he would have been patting the other side of the bed and inviting you back in. Your clothing probably would have remained where you dropped it.
That IS really weird. Even if he didn't want you to stick around...it's still very weird.
There is nothing weird about this!! She was a booty call! He finally got what he wanted, and he shooed her out the door. Typical.
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