Returning gifts after a break-up? (marriage, different, difference, reason)

[convextech]

Originally Posted by gurz11

What are your thoughts?

He's just trying to hurt you, because he is hurting, that's all. Give him back his ring and be done with it.

[TabulaRasa]

Originally Posted by gurz11

Completely agree, and the example you provided makes sense.

I have his engagement ring though. Should I return it? I didn't return it because I thought it would be hurtful - and knowing the type of guy he is, I KNOW he will trash it, so I thought of keeping it from saving him the heartache... What do you think?

You can always sell it. It's your ring.

[TUMF]

Originally Posted by funymann

Tell him you want all the gas you put in his car so you can burn down half the house you cleaned too!!!

If she wasn't all that into cooking, the gas he provided may well have been enough already....

Just sayin'.....

[oh-eve]

Originally Posted by TabulaRasa

You can always sell it. It's your ring.

No it isn't.

Check your state law, you might have to return the ring.

[TabulaRasa]

Originally Posted by oh-eve

No it isn't.

Check your state law, you might have to return the ring.

Ah, true.

Outright gift, here, so no returning necessary.

[cindersslipper]

An Engagement ring is viewed as part of a contract by the courts.

They will ALWAYS rule it to remain with the person who paid for it.

Return it OP, you don't want him so you don't want his Engagement Ring.

Who cares what he does with it? No longer your concern.

(he probably wont trash it, romantic as it may seem, but keep it for the next one).

[TabulaRasa]

Originally Posted by cindersslipper

An Engagement ring is viewed as part of a contract by the courts.

They will ALWAYS rule it to remain with the person who paid for it.

Not in the U.S., actually. It varies by state, and not all states have legislation on file governing the topic.

[HappyRain]

I don't see an issue. You're not together, and they may return gifts since their ex bought them, so now they can decide what they want to do with them. If they want to sale it and make a profit-for bigger stuff. Then their money they spent doesn't go down the drain when their ex callously throws all of it away. Now if it's something on the cheap side like a card, or some plastic flowers, then sure. No problem to throw that stuff away.

[cam1957]

I'd just donate the stuff to Goodwill or a charity and be done with him.

Give the engagement ring back if he wants it.

The last guy I was engaged to got me a ring that we both made monthly payments on. He asked for it back and I gladly gave it to him. I would have pawned it anyway...lol

[cindersslipper]

Originally Posted by TabulaRasa

Not in the U.S., actually. It varies by state, and not all states have legislation on file governing the topic.

You're honestly telling me a judge dillydallys in a courtroom?


Nope, law or no law, a court will give the ring to whoever paid for it, the end. Its a CONTRACT, broken.

Being an engagement ring, that is usually the man.