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Before it wouldnt bother me if he helps them but now, were gonna have our own family and I need him to save money for us.
I'd kick my sister out and have my husband start helping with the family bills. You are having a baby and creating your own family, now she needs to create hers. Having her there keeps it from being a "family" in that sense of the word.
Its not because of pregnancy why we got married. He proposed. He gave me a ring. I accepted. We got married.
Brilliant. Enter into a contract with someone you know nothing about financially.
This is what you end up with. This is so beyond anything I've experienced I'm kinda baffled.
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You are wrong about this. The only way "pre-marital assets" comes into play is if the house was completely paid off before the marriage, IE: no mortgage. Once you are married, it's half the spouses. Not just the equity beforehand, all of it...
Really? Thank you. I need to do some reading on this. I didn't know this.
We got married after dating for about a year. Now, were expecting our first baby. Im not a selfish girl and definitely Im not greedy.
After we got married, he moved in with me at my house. He doesn't pay anything since Ive been paying the mortgage and I can afford it, Ive never asked him to share payment with me. I have a sister who lives with me who pays our bills for electricity and water. He pays for food sometimes.
I try to understand him why he cant share much on our expenses because he gives his parents $500 a month to help them with their bills. The other day, his mom texted him asking to help his sister financially to get the A/C of her car fixed. He gave them money. They rely on him because they know he makes good money.
Before it wouldnt bother me if he helps them but now, were gonna have our own family and I need him to save money for us. How are you guys gonna react if you were in my situation?
Why are you allowed to help your sister? Yes, she pays some bills but won't all your time, attention, and dollars be needed for the baby? Or is she going to help out for free with the baby?
Well, Missganda has been with us for a few years, so she's not a "new member".
Well, you gotta admit the original post is bizarre sounding???? What married couple lives this way, SIL's hanging around, all of this "her" house stuff, bickering and whining about money and what family gets it instead of her, these two need to shytcan all of the people surrounding them and focus on their marriage.
When you're married that "family" union is the priority, not the extended family, at least it should be.
They probably aren't westerners, most likely Asian or eastern European..... they tend to culturally put their parents and sibling in front of their spouses and their own "family"...
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