Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
It's important that you find a therapist who understands that there's absolutely nothing wrong with your desires, but who will hold you accountable for your actions.
Personally, I do not regret the fact that I have been with hundreds of men, and I don't regret that I had sex with dozens of men while in relationships. I regret going about it in a way that was mentally and physically unhealthy. And, most importantly, I do deeply regret that I betrayed the trust of people I love.
You will have the desire to have sex with lots and lots of people for the rest of your life. That's just part of being human; anyone who says otherwise is lying to you. While being responsible is not about having a sexual free-for-all, it's not about repression either.
Good luck finding a therapist (and a future boyfriend!) who will help you embrace and explore your complex desires in an honest, safe way.
Fantastic! You found a therapist who actually gives you permission to have your cake and eat it too! Please, give me their name so I feel free to double-dip too!
Hopefully I won't sound like an a$$ because you have posed a difficult question.
For one, still try to find a counselor that can help. We here on the internet aren't even considered poor substitute counselors - we only know your issue from this one thread.
I have a niece who is now 30, has slept with many men, and has fathered 5 children 92 sets of twins) all while having no money. She acts like trailer park trash. And, she is not good looking at all.
We in the family (including my brother - it's his daughter by marriage, not biological) have discussed varied reasons as to the why. Could she be compensating for her own inner low self esteem by doing something that on an individual basis is "normal" - sex? Forget stringing them together as that's another issue, but the fact she can have sex may make her feel more normal than being totally ignored because she isn't good looking. Human beings suck and judge people by their cover, which is why there are so many great people out there in no relationships because they just don't look good to others yet they are decent people.
If you are not in a committed relationship you are not cheating. Well, maybe cheating on yourself because not only do you not feel good about yourself, but you are committing actions that make you feel even worst. Are you a sex addict or do you do it for another reason? If not already doing so, would having sex toys and pleasuring yourself regularly maybe curb the feeling to go out and do it physically with many men?
You just need to take the first step to walk away from the habit, no different than a smoker trying to quit. It's uber difficult, and only you can make it happen.
Again, I am NO expert and am only speaking from what I've read here. But regardless, I hope you find your way.
what am i supposed to do
how am i going to come to grips with that when its mentally messed me up i have no self esteem i hate my looks i hate everything about myself and its all because of that so i sleep with multiple men to try and make myself feel better and it works for the time being
Work on your self esteem. Develop on your personality, education, hobby and other things to offer the world besides your vagina. You said the counselor didn't work before? You still need to talk to a therapist and is possible you need medication for the impulsive sex drive.
When you sleep with multiple men, you are feeling a false sense of validation. They think you are dirty,not some one they want. Guys call girls like that some appalling names I can't repeat on this forum. So you're degrading and endangering your health to make yourself feel better doesn't make sense .
I don't know what the real underlying issue is or you are not telling us so find help before you get into deeper trouble. Hope you find your way
i am trying alot of the things i do are for self validation they make me feel good about myself but in the end its truly hurting me and i know it is but i just cant stop it
its hard to let go of something that has been a part of your life for so long
i am trying alot of the things i do are for self validation they make me feel good about myself but in the end its truly hurting me and i know it is but i just cant stop it
its hard to let go of something that has been a part of your life for so long
The first step to fixing your problem is admitting you have one...so kudos there. Otherwise why not try staying...I don't know...single? It's not cheating if you're not committed to someone.
Have you gone through therapy with a specialist that deals with childhood sexual abuse?
Please register to post and access all features of our very popular forum. It is free and quick. Over $68,000 in prizes has already been given out to active posters on our forum. Additional giveaways are planned.
Detailed information about all U.S. cities, counties, and zip codes on our site: City-data.com.
Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
. 
