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I am in my 40's now, but have always found it hard to meet someone after a failed relationship. Is this normal? Sure, there are times that I have met someone in a couple of months but mostly it takes Many months or even years. Granted, I am picky and only attracted to a small percentage of women and there has to be chemistry. Seems like my ex's find someone right away after breakup but not me. I suppose its easier for women to find a match right away.
Is this normal for most? Guys? If you can provide advise on where to meet women my age that would be appreciated. I am not into online dating though.
How are you meeting women? If you're not meeting many, then of course you will have trouble meeting one who actually fits your preferences. It is a numbers game in that sense.
I had success using online dating sites. Even then, less than 5% of contacts were worth meeting, and only 10% of those worth dating for any length of time. For me, only about 3 of roughly 50 whom I met matched my criteria and had mutual "chemistry."
How are you meeting women? If you're not meeting many, then of course you will have trouble meeting one who actually fits your preferences. It is a numbers game in that sense.
I had success using online dating sites. Even then, less than 5% of contacts were worth meeting, and only 10% of those worth dating for any length of time. For me, only about 3 of roughly 50 whom I met matched my criteria and had mutual "chemistry."
The women I've met are, one from my son's school and met another at church. I am pretty active, go to the gym, parties, etc but don't see anyone who i'm attracted to.
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Originally Posted by donie1
You answered your own question by saying you are picky and only attracted to a small % of women.
The women I've met are, one from my son's school and met another at church. I am pretty active, go to the gym, parties, etc but don't see anyone who i'm attracted to.
Your only problem is that your dating pool is too shallow and small - there are simply not enough available candidates in those venues, and you've probably exhausted the opportunities already.
The women I've met are, one from my son's school and met another at church. I am pretty active, go to the gym, parties, etc but don't see anyone who i'm attracted to.
True! But don't we all have some standards?
Well the way I see it you have 3 choices:
1. Become more realistic about your standards.
2. Stop looking for women at your church, that school and the gym, and instead find totally new venues more likely to have the types of women you find attractive.
3. Remain alone.
Without knowing anything about you, I'd guess your standards are out of whack. That's usually the case for all of us who can't find someone. We think we are "all that" and deserve someone prettier/richer/hotter/smarter/taller/thinner etc than what is truly within our personal league.
2. Stop looking for women at your church, that school and the gym, and instead find totally new venues more likely to have the types of women you find attractive.
3. Remain alone.
Without knowing anything about you, I'd guess your standards are out of whack. That's usually the case for all of us who can't find someone. We think we are "all that" and deserve someone prettier/richer/hotter/smarter/taller/thinner etc than what is truly within our personal league.
I get your point and true you don't know me. I can tell you for certain I think that I am "all that", in fact my friends have told me on occasion that I could do better. The last person I dated was pretty, but she also felt that she should and did sleep around when she felt like it. You may think I'm shallow or that I am setting the bar too high for not accepting that and ending the relationship. Its not so much the question of looking for perfection physically or otherwise. I'd gladly settle for a nice personality and someone who has basic understanding of what a relationship is all about. As long as there is chemistry most other things can be overlooked.
I get your point and true you don't know me. I can tell you for certain I think that I am "all that", in fact my friends have told me on occasion that I could do better. The last person I dated was pretty, but she also felt that she should and did sleep around when she felt like it. You may think I'm shallow or that I am setting the bar too high for not accepting that and ending the relationship. Its not so much the question of looking for perfection physically or otherwise. I'd gladly settle for a nice personality and someone who has basic understanding of what a relationship is all about. As long as there is chemistry most other things can be overlooked.
Sorry, it should say "I don't think I am "all that"".
Well, last week I was walking in Times Square in New York City. I will tell you what.. there were some pretty hot, successful ladies walking the streets. I don't know bout you but if I were single I would be hitting the streets there.
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