Why Is Dating So Much Easier for Women than Men? (break up, success)
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Because men are physically bigger and more often than not don't need to worry about being assault by their date. Actually, it's ironic that the trait of being larger makes it more difficult to date. In addition to size, I would wager that society's construction of gender roles (which seems to be getting more and more out of control) is not helping things either.
If, for example, a random women on the street decided to strike-up a conversation with me and it went well, assuming I am not busy, I'd have no compunction about proceeding onward to a date. I'd think of it of as an opportunity to get to know someone. On the other hand, if the situation was reversed and a man approached a women, it'd be just another day of harassment. For truly women are approached a great deal by random joes.
This is a strange conclusion to draw. It's not about being physically larger; that doesn't make it hard to date. Following your logic, the short guys would have it easiest, but they don't. And your being open to talk to any women who approach you has nothing to do with society's gender roles. That's just you. Most men are selective, and are attracted to a narrow band of women with certain preferred looks or attributes according to their individual preferences. Most of us don't talk to random strangers that approach us out of the blue. We may tolerate some polite chit chat if we're in a situation where there's no escape (waiting in line to order coffee or to pay for something), but few guys stop what they're doing to talk to a stranger unless she's good-looking, however any of us define that.
As a guy, you work it. There will be times where a girl will find you attractive, fun to be with, or both. But if she doesn't then you work it. That is, you spend time with her and be her friend. With time she might see you are not that bad of a guy and as things progress she may end up liking you. You create that attraction as Timbeline742 said.
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Basically this. Hang out, have fun, make her laugh, and stuff sometimes happens.
Now things are much more sudden, but one thing I think is critical, be good. I mean, be a good kisser. You get that chance for a kiss, bring it, sensually... that almost always leads to more, and if you're solid there as well and focus on her having fun and feeling good, that usually leads to more as well.
I'm not well off financially, I'm not good looking, I'm not very smooth, I'm a total dork... so when I get a chance I have to make the most of it because it isn't like it is for some guys that I'm just like "next up".
What's your success rate vs. winding up in the friend zone? Because I've made many close friends, but none have ever been interested in me romantically.
What's your success rate vs. winding up in the friend zone? Because I've made many close friends, but none have ever been interested in me romantically.
Nope. We know women can fake because we know we are not perfect in bed. It is women who are in disbelief that men can fake it too. Why? Because it just doesn't cross their minds that they can be bad in bed too. "A man faking it with me? But I am a woman!"
Goes both ways. Women can't even believe men can fake they are enjoying sex and also fake orgasm. It's not like what you see in porn or read in erotica. And women say men have no idea about women's anatomy and sexuality, go figure.
Go back and read what I wrote. Was I addressing your claim that men are faking orgasm all the time? No. I'm not going to even bother with that. What I said was, again, there are plenty of MALES who think that because they come to bed equipped with a wee-wee that the sex will be great. Because they have a penis. Not because they are good, not because they know what they're doing, but because they think that all that is needed for good sex is a hard-on. And there are plenty of men who are having "great sex," while their partner is dissatisfied.
Can you hear me now?
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"Success rate"?
Yeah, I don't know how to touch that one. Sometimes people weren't attracted to me ever, sometimes they were, sometimes they became good friends, sometimes they didn't.
I didn't and don't keep records and calculate "success". I lived my life. I keep living my life. My life is pretty good. Not awesome, but pretty good. I'm happy. That's a pretty good success in my book.
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And there are plenty of men who are having great sex, while their partner is dissatisfied.
If one of the participants is dissatisfied, it isn't great sex at all in my book, for anyone.
Poor choice of words, I guess, as both friendships and romantic relationships are positive things. But, they're saying that they just became friends, and these friendships often grew into romantic relationships. I'm curious about how often that happened, because in other threads, that approach was dismissed as fairytale stuff.
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Poor choice of words, I guess, as both friendships and romantic relationships are positive things. But, they're saying that they just became friends, and these friendships often grew into romantic relationships. I'm curious about how often that happened, because in other threads, that approach was dismissed as fairytale stuff.
I, personally, didn't say anything like this at all. Please read what I actually said.
Dating is easier for women than men because men are easily replaceable.
For every 1 women, there are always 10 men who would love to be her suitor.
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