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Old 01-30-2008, 08:47 PM
 
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Hi. New to this place and very nice. Sorry for some bad english. I am kind of new to this area. I have a question with regards to finding a boyfriend. I am 5-6, blonde, 105 pounds with nice figure but I cant find a man. It is strange because I have good attitude and am nice to people. I wonder if maybe approach is wrong and should adjust attitude. I stay hi with people all the time but it seems that men just want to use me for sex. First they start out nice but eventually they disappoint because I will not sleep with them. I havent found special man to sleep with because relationship is important first. Most of these men do not mind that I am bisexual female but like I say they just are not my type. Should I change approach? Thankyou for advice.
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Old 01-31-2008, 06:15 AM
 
Location: Southeast
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Hi. New to this place and very nice. Sorry for some bad english. I am kind of new to this area. I have a question with regards to finding a boyfriend. I am 5-6, blonde, 105 pounds with nice figure but I cant find a man. It is strange because I have good attitude and am nice to people. I wonder if maybe approach is wrong and should adjust attitude. I stay hi with people all the time but it seems that men just want to use me for sex. First they start out nice but eventually they disappoint because I will not sleep with them. I havent found special man to sleep with because relationship is important first. Most of these men do not mind that I am bisexual female but like I say they just are not my type. Should I change approach? Thankyou for advice.
Of course they don't mind that you are bi, they have all kinds of visions dancing thru their heads.....are you nutts
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Old 01-31-2008, 06:22 AM
 
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Of course they don't mind that you are bi, they have all kinds of visions dancing thru their heads.....are you nutts
I find some men who do not like that part of me but its something I can not change because I was born this way. Some men want to watch me with other woman but I refuse because they only think about sex and I feel used. This is not fair and I get mad when a man does this. I want a man to respect me for who I am.
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Old 01-31-2008, 06:50 AM
 
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Hi. New to this place and very nice. Sorry for some bad english. I am kind of new to this area. I have a question with regards to finding a boyfriend. I am 5-6, blonde, 105 pounds with nice figure but I cant find a man. It is strange because I have good attitude and am nice to people. I wonder if maybe approach is wrong and should adjust attitude. I stay hi with people all the time but it seems that men just want to use me for sex. First they start out nice but eventually they disappoint because I will not sleep with them. I havent found special man to sleep with because relationship is important first. Most of these men do not mind that I am bisexual female but like I say they just are not my type. Should I change approach? Thankyou for advice.
Yet in another thread you wrote this...

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I watch porno about 5 times a week but feel not addicted. I enjoy all type of porno film mostly with good variety but also enjoy the story not just sex. My ex husband did not prefer me watching these movies because he felt I cheat on him because I fantasize about other men and women in these films.
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Old 01-31-2008, 10:04 AM
 
Location: In the woods next to the ocean
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...they only think about sex and I feel used.
I would rather have good sex and feel used, than to no sex and feel nothing.
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Old 01-31-2008, 10:57 AM
 
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I sort of seems to me that you are using "sex" to get attention from different men, and then get upset when the think of you only in a sexual way.

If you want men to not only be interested in sex, change the way you look for men. Find an activity you are interested in, and use your common interests to attract men. If you rely on being sexual to attract people, you attract people who want you for sex.
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Old 01-31-2008, 11:35 AM
 
Location: makin' bacon
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I find some men who do not like that part of me but its something I can not change because I was born this way. Some men want to watch me with other woman but I refuse because they only think about sex and I feel used. This is not fair and I get mad when a man does this. I want a man to respect me for who I am.
In your original posts you said you wanted to know if you should change your approach. Could you give us a bit more info, besides you are nice to men.

Also, are you saying you prefer men, but like the occasional woman? I am not bisexual myself, but have seen a number of posts here on the forum from some bisexuals, so maybe one of them can chime in... but maybe if the men are treating you poorly, you could stick with women for awhile.
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Old 01-31-2008, 11:37 AM
 
Location: Land of 10000 Lakes + some
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I think this poster is roping you in - both topics about sex. Notice the dissimilar syntax; sometimes she gets it perfectly right, then goes on to her "foreign" script.
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Old 01-31-2008, 11:55 AM
 
Location: makin' bacon
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I think this poster is roping you in - both topics about sex. Notice the dissimilar syntax; sometimes she gets it perfectly right, then goes on to her "foreign" script.
Maybe, but I am seriously bored, so it doesn't really matter to me.
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Old 02-01-2008, 08:17 AM
 
Location: the show-me state
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Hi. New to this place and very nice. Sorry for some bad english. I am kind of new to this area. I have a question with regards to finding a boyfriend. I am 5-6, blonde, 105 pounds with nice figure but I cant find a man. It is strange because I have good attitude and am nice to people. I wonder if maybe approach is wrong and should adjust attitude. I stay hi with people all the time but it seems that men just want to use me for sex. First they start out nice but eventually they disappoint because I will not sleep with them. I havent found special man to sleep with because relationship is important first. Most of these men do not mind that I am bisexual female but like I say they just are not my type. Should I change approach? Thankyou for advice.

Well, I think you should decide for yourself if you want an "exclusive relationship" with another person or not. And then decide which gender you prefer. An open relationship can involve sex with as many people as you and your mate agree upon. An exclusive relationship with REAL meaning behind it, will only involve two people. You and your man, or you and your woman. If you want a man, but also wish to be with a woman every so often, then you are simply trying to have your cake, and eat it too! I think most couples who have formed commitments to each other would call that cheating. I know I would! And, it sure wouldn't fly in my little world!!
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