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It's probably tough in a workplace with only 35 people. Seems like they are all very friendly and personal there. If you want to stay in the circle, you have to contribute.
Never had the problem, I would think the wanting to be part of the circle/fit in is where the issue would be the common denominator.
I have always worked in small offices, you just have to make others aware where you limits lay and eventually they get it and treat you in appropriate ways.
You can still be social and share with others without giving up every little peronsal detail of your life.
You will always get the "over sharers" in you office who thrive on personal gossip and drama who will try to influence the group to their needs, it's not very wise to pander to them just to fit in.
As an example: We had a new girl start up the other week and my first personal interaction with her was her telling me her vagina was itchy becuase she had been having too much sex with a new guy she was seeing. She proceeded to give me a detailed summary of his anatomy and how it did not jive with hers and why.
She gave me no room to interject...she just went off with her story becuase she felt it was important to share.
Afterwords when she seen I was really not interested in her personal life the way she has an attachment to it she tried to save face and embarrassment and asked "so...are seeing anyone?"
Last edited by rego00123; 10-27-2015 at 02:12 PM..
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I think men have it easier there. They often talk hours about sports, politics or whatever.
Women cut down to the chase quickly and get very personal very fast.
Agreed
Had a few drinks last night in a pub, us lads were having a laugh and a joke and a group of girls come over and joined us by talking about favourite sex positions!!
Had a few drinks last night in a pub, us lads were having a laugh and a joke and a group of girls come over and joined us by talking about favourite sex positions!!
I agree. Also if you work at s huge company and find someone in another department, it is fine too.
My late hubby and I met at work. We worked at a company of about 300 that had quite a few people who were biologically related and had several couples as well - some just starting out, some who'd been married for years, two who got married in the time we both worked there. One who got divorced but remained the best of friends.
We dated for 6 months before anyone knew we were together, with the exception of one of my co-worker friends. We came clean because he made a career change and left the company. We weren't hiding because of any rules or impropriety reasons. We did it because we wanted to date each other, not the whole (gossipy) company. We were in separate departments so if it had not gone well, it would have been easy to avoid each other. As it was, I had been there for just over 2 years and he for about a year and a half before we ever crossed paths.
I don't agree. Me and my wife work in the same organization and have never had an issue. We're in separate departments and I never even see her in the office. We don't hang out, go to lunch or even commute together as our schedules vary. We'll go grab a coffee maybe once every 6 months or so but that's it.
Do fellow dudes agree. The reason we do not ask women in the workplace out is that there is a strong likelihood of an awkward situation in the office down the line.
Its depends on how you do it, but no I don't agree to never do it. Its a good place to meet people.
I agree with this but then I wouldn't be with my current bf...
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