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Originally Posted by MissClutterbuck
There's also that thing, though, where people in their 20s think they have life figured out.
I'm not saying that to put down the 20 somethings here. Some of them have great insight. But it's definitely a "thing" that, when you're in your 20s, you think you have things figured out.
Then when you reach your 30s, life hits you in the face like a Mack truck, and you realize you'll never have it figured it. Lol.
I sure did think that. I was rolling. Job I loved, established myself in a new city on my own (moved there with a duffel bag knowing no one), made amazing friends, dated, rocked, partied, worked, went to grad school... still in hindsight, I was a total immature idiot.
I'm a 31F and yes I do find it gets harder date as you age. I mean on 1 hand I know what I like more and haven't settled, but on the other I'm lonely wanting love and rarely go on dates. I don't think I've been on a date since the beginning of October.
I'm a 31F and yes I do find it gets harder date as you age. I mean on 1 hand I know what I like more and haven't settled, but on the other I'm lonely wanting love and rarely go on dates. I don't think I've been on a date since the beginning of October.
This! There are some places where there are more single men of various age groups. Looking after yourself also gives you more options, so the "nice guys" hoping to get lucky when women are 30+, will be waiting forever if they have nothing to bring to the table.
Whether or not there's any truth to this statement or your earlier comments, what motivates you to offer your very predictable take on things like this? If anyone took you seriously, then your contribution here would only make women in that age group feel a little iffy about their dating prospects. Does that benefit you in some way?
Its annoying for me to read multiple pages of people lying to each other, in order to make themselves feel better. Be honest, be real.
When I was 22, I was broke, stressed out, had small kids, and a husband. I was on birth control (couldn't get my tubes tied at that age) that made me completely lose my libido. I didn't even want to be touched. I was the ice queen. If guys were seeing me and wanting me, I didn't notice. I dressed more conservatively, smiled a lot less, and got a LOT less male attention than I do now at 36 (37 next month.) Even if I hadn't been married, I was so focused on trying to make money and get started in the world, I don't think I'd have had any interest in dating at that time.
You're basically saying that you got more dates when you were older because you weren't the ice queen, DID notice guys, and dressed LESS conservatively and other variables.
Ok.
You are citing variables that needed to be excluded from the equation.
I mean obviously if you were 22 and gave off an aura that you were a total b tch, then obviously you wouldn't get guys coming on to you...
What people are saying is if you ACTED THE SAME WAY at 22 vs. 36....would you still get more dates at 36?
What people are saying is if you ACTED THE SAME WAY at 22 vs. 36....would you still get more dates at 36?
I would think that most people change quite a bit between early 20's and mid 30's. Unless one lives under a rock somewhere, life experience would dictate that they would not be "acting the same way at 22 vs. 36".
I suppose that the "stats" cited in that Daily Mail article would be extremely important for those who believe that someone's worth comes from the number of times their profile is hit on OLD, or how many times they are hit on while going about their daily life. I am extremely grateful to not get my sense of self-worth by how many "dates" I go on.
Its annoying for me to read multiple pages of people lying to each other, in order to make themselves feel better. Be honest, be real.
Do you really think you have the "truth" market cornered? In any case, the OP mentioned that she had read in several men's blogs that women have a tougher time dating when they turn 35 or 40. I've read some of those blogs, perhaps not the same one's the OP has because she didn't identify them, but still, blogs written by men telling women what women's experience is. Presumptuous at least, and likely a bit delusional, but I digress.
Those blogs almost always approach this subject as a warning of sorts that women will essentially pay for being independent and single through their 30s by being unable to find a good man when they're ready to settle down. Classic concern trolling. Everyone's options change as they age. Men and women past their 20s have ex's and kids and the early stirrings of health issues. These days many women in their 30s are doing better career wise than their male counterparts. Sure, some people will time their romantic desires poorly, and some will be disappointed in their romantic options at various points in life, but that's hardly a "women's" problem.
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